Well I did an unbelievable thing tonight - I apologised to my MIL
I didnt even mean to it just came out! Like you I havent saw MIL for a week & was bloody tempted not to go tonight but decided to swallow it for Caitlin. Before leaving Stuart begged me not to row with his mum and put things behind me/forget about last week (wanted to smack him for that but anyway).
Walked in tonight and she said hi to Caitlin and then I just thought - *$%£ it, I dont want it to be awkward, I'l never feel close to her so I may aswell play this whole fake/nodding game she likes and accept that I cant change her. So I said I was sorry if id annoyed her in anyway, that wasnt my intention and I just wanted to sort things out with Stuart myself. She then apologised and gave me a hug
. I then left lol to give my friend a lift to town. Still not keen on hanging round her but at least Caitlin got to stay for an hr and have some nana/caitlin time.
I do feel better now the air is cleared a bit (even though I had to do it!), Im the more mature person, it was done on my terms and though I was a wimp and didnt say my true feelings towards her I think iv reached a place were Iv accepted she is an arse and am not going to get upset by her again - remind me I said this in 6 months time when im ranting again lol!
I do feel better now with Stuart as we can sort things out without either of us bringing his mum up. That was a seperate issue and now its closed.
If I was you I dont think the feeling of panic/dread would go away until I saw MIL again - be it to apologise, talk, ignore what happened, shout.... Id need something to happen. I guess no one can decide what is right for you. My MIL isnt a risk to Caitlin, just an interfering biddy so I suppose there are different issues going on. Dont feel guilty - especially if your MIL doesnt! Maybe your OH needs to sort things out on his own with MIL before you and her try and repair any bridges. Maybe an underlying issue is she feels you have taken her son away?