I've been thinking about the child my parents fostered, she had serious attachment issues (that was the main reason my parents didn't adopt her - my mum had said from the start she could cope with most issues but not attachment ones)
The social workers never once 'labeled' her as having these issues, but now looking back I can see everything about how she was came from lack of attachment as a baby, so because they didn't 'admit' she had these issues they were never dealt with - it was impossible to parent her tbh, I think only a specialist who knew all about it would stand any chance.
This explains it quite well What is Reactive Attachment Disorder?
Anyway the first 2 years of a childs life is where the 'attachment' process takes place - so the first 2 years of your childs life are so important in shaping how they grow up.
The little girl was 6 I think when she was removed from her 'parents' - so you can imagine how damaged she was after that length of time!
Do you think there should be more early tests to check that parents are actually parenting their child? I saw a TV program that tested the relationship between child & mother, it was very simple but the results were so obvious.
It seems that all the HVs are interested in is whether they are fed/growing etc (not blaming HV's as its not currently their standard role) ... not that they are emotionally developing.
I think their should be compulsory checks done - 6 months, 1 year and 2 years - to stop so many children being emotionally neglected (and worse)...it should never get to 6 years before its realised that these children are not being parented.