How do you discipline your 2yr old? H is getting really naughty sometimes, he torments the dog, kicks him, sits on Lewis and makes him cry, throws things. He thinks is a game and putting him on the naughty step does nothing. He will sit there but that's a game as well. His speech isn't brilliant and I am not sure how much he understand what I am telling him but he knows he should do things as he torments Lewis when I have gone out of the room. Any tips. On the other hand he rarely has tantrums and behaves quite well when out and rarely makes a fuss if he can't have something. Thankyou

Sounds a bit like Immi, she is quite good out and about and with family, we're always being told how easy we have it with her but she's a little pickle at home. We don't have a naughty step anymore. We tried it but I spent so long putting her back on the seat it just became a game to her and I couldn't cope. Now she has a warning and then 5 seconds to do as we say, then once we get to 5 we put her in the little hall area. I have to remember to make sure the stair gate is shut and the toilet door is closed so she has no where else to go but mostly this works. Being completely shut out rather than being able to see us and be cheeky on a step seems to work a lot better. She'll cry and then always say sorry straight away to me (it seems to take longer with Matt )
I don't know if that's something you could try or if you have already.

ummmm I'll be honest lol, I have never put Izzy on the naughty step or anything like that, I just don't think it would have any effect on her - I think she is too awkward - she'd just tut and roll her eyes at me, sit there for 2 minutes with her arms crossed giving me dirty looks out of the corner of her eyes

The only 'discipline' I do is I reward good behavior and I ignore the bad, so I to Izzy me ignoring her is me telling her its not good - and she knows!

Of course if she goes to kick the dog etc then I'd say stop and if she didn't then I'd take her hand, bend down and tell her its not very nice and that Denny won't want to play with her if she kicks him etc etc. I try to give her her the opportunity to understand why its wrong, and hope that she understands me - and I am pretty sure she does as it nearly always works when she has things explained.

I think if its hurting someone else then I'd remove her from the situation and explain, but if no one or nothing is in danger of being hurt/broken then I'd ignore it totally - he will probably get bored of throwing things if no one pays him any attention when he does it

yep agree with Lise on this one too

If you pay them any attention when they are being naughty - they will do it again because they know it will get your attention. If you walk away (as hard as that is) they will soon realise that Mummy/Daddy dont acknowledge/talk to them and hopefully give up that behaviour, because toddlers LOVE Mummy/Daddy's attention they cotton on pretty quick to what works xx

I do ignore him to a certain extent but I can ignore him when he is kicking the dog or pushing Lewis over.I am not sure what to do in that situation. As I said his speech etc isn't brilliant so not sure if he would understand me telling him it's naught etc

oo hard one. paige gets told off, tap on the hand and naughty step. cant do the naughty step/corner now as there isnt any where to put her but lately we have found telling her off at her level and then walking away works well x

Seb certainly understands because if we make a threat that if he continues there will be no dessert / book before bed / bath / whatever it sometimes works instantly. The threat we use is something that is about to happen, I don't suppose threatening no book before bed would work at 10am.

We also threaten him with going in his cot for 5 minutes (which we have done a couple of times). We still have the sides on the cot.

And we threaten him with taking away the toy that he is banging / throwing - that also works although there's the ensuing grizzle as he can see the toy out of reach and wants it back...

If all else fails, there's always distraction or bribery

We are quite lucky with Bethany in that if she does start doing something she shouldn't, if we ask her to stop she most often than not will and similar to Lisa with Izzy, we've not had to use the naughty step yet. I think it has alot to do with her going to nursery and the fact that they are expected to act in a certain way and follow instruction and the nursery doesn't have any messing. Sorry I've probably not been much help. xx

C responds well to a lot of structure in her life, ive found the loose and easy way doesnt suit her so we have a fairly structured system as anal as it sounds.

Initially we have house rules like in bed til 7am though she can play in her room quietly then shes allowed downstairs with tv til 10, no tv from 10-6 then she can have tv from 6 (or after dinner) til bedtime (this sounds off topic but its relevant)

We then have a list up of good behaviour and naughty behaviour which she knows about and we have talked about. Even though she cant read them yet they are there for visual reminder. Good behaviours are as simple as being nice to her sister, helping pick her toys up, trying to dress herself etc and for each one she gets a sticker for her chart. After 8 stickers she gets a reward which might be something from her reward box (full of stuff from poundland etc), a small sweet or half an hour tv. Naughty behaviours are minimal but things like being mean to her sister, running off in public, throwing food or toys etc and for those she gets a warning then either 2 mins time out on her naughty chair or a toy confiscated or loss of evening tv

TBH its not that often i have to use naughty chair, we had a spate of it last week but shes way more settled atm and if anythging im worried im gonna have to up the sticker allowance lol