How do you not lose your rag when they pee somewhere/sometime they shouldnt??



I know im going to sound horrid, but Isla has been doing great for a good while now.....all of a sudden it has become a novelty again to wee outside on the flags.....and also 9 times out of 10 she asks to go for wees on toilet while we are out, and tootles off to the loo when were at home



BUT then just PEES on the floor, or climbs under the table and just PEES!



When its just blatant, I cant help but get annoyed!



Am I being too hard? Do I go back to basics? What do I do?

I'm not sure what to suggest - are you sure its on purpose and not just a genuine accident?

I think I'd just not speak....literally just clean her up and clean the floor, not say a word to her. Then afterwards just walk away and carry on with something...see if that does anything?

It is hard but try and breathe through it

Oliver still has his moments too..never when were out funnily enough For example, yesterday he was sat watching telly whilst I was putting tea out and he looked well chilled - next this I hears is 'oh no wet pants!' and he'd just wet himself on the settee.
Then whilst eating tea he sat there, ate all his tea (earned a sticky star and got a prize ) ate his pud and it wasn't till he got down I noticed his 2nd pair of pants in an hour were soaked through Normally he has a pee break mid-tea, usually to get out of eating..but this time he didn't.

They are still fairly new to it all so try not to get angry or annoyed. I just stay calm but in a firm voice say we do wee wee's on the potty/toilet. For example yesterdays episode with Oliver I genuinely don't think he even realised..so I just said 'no worries but remember when you need to wee, we go to potty'
If I feel he's done it out of laziness or cos he's 'busy' I'm quite firm with him that 'we must got to the potty to wee!!'
Oliver does the wee wee dance when he needs to pee but on occasion he's far to 'busy' to stop what he's doing to go and replies with 'i'm not bov'ard!!! Thats when I intervine and actually remove the distraction until he's been.

If you feel she's doing it on purpose/for attention maybe? I'd be enclined to remind her that going to pee outside isn't acceptable and we must go pee on the potty, if this continued i'd be inclined to give time out (but only if shes truely doing it on purpose. Try not to rise to it, just remain calm. If it is an attention thing make her aware that doing this isn't going to get the attention she wants - but when she does go pee on the potty/toilet reward her with praise or try a specific 'potty/toilet reward chart' so she maybe gets a star for every sucessfull potty trip and a small treat at the end of the day. But genuine accidents, remain sympathetic and offer reasurence 'no biggy hun'

I hope i haven't rambled too much there

Rowan started doing this.and it was on purpose as he'd go to his room wee in something then come and tell me what he did. Told him that he does wee weed in the potty or on the toilet and no where else. Then next time be went a wee on the potty I went over the top on praise. Pick him up swung him round gave him a big hug and told him he was a good boy and told OH how and why he was a good boy and Hermione. He's had two accidents since (3 weeks ago) as he couldn't get his trousers down.

He blows his own trumpet now as he loves the praise when he goes now

Thanks girls!!



I Know im being too hard , I forget shes 2 sometimes.



Im going to follow your advice Zee, im going back to basics with a reward chart & no reaction at all if she wees (just in case its for attention), and then I will just explain wee wee in potty in future.



Im putting her in a bed as well this month, so that should give her a little more 'ownership' of needing wee too.



Thanks for bringing me back to hand ladies



Lisa xx

Aww Lisa don't beat yourself up abou it. We all get a bit short sometimes (I'll put my hands up) when you feel like your talking to brick wall.
Just take 10secs to breathe, then tend to her

Good luck with the bed transition hope it goes well. X

i do tell braden off when he has accidents becuase i am 100% sure he is just being lazy, his main time he has accidents is when eating cos he doesnt want to leave his food!

x