Hi

You may remember that a few weeks ago i posted that somebody had told my mam that me and gav were palming alfie off on family while we went on supposed cocaine binges. i was fuming and so was gav. we have never touched stuff in our life - well maybe a puff on a joint before but thats it.

Anyway we went fishing and found out that apparantly it was my step brother that told this to my mam!! My step dad is an alcoholic and is going thorugh a bad patch at the minute drinking and my mam is trying to sort him out. So his son text my mam saying how she should leave his dad alone and concentrate on her own family as we are drug addicts bla bla bla bla!

As u can imagine i am not happy - an neither is gav. In fact he wants to strangle the bloke! The only thing is it was my mams friend who told us this and we promised her we wudnt let on we knew as my mam wud never talk to her again.

The problem is now its Alfies christening on 3rd October. We dont want my step bro to come because of the trouble hes caused but cant let on we know. Ive told my mam i dont want him there but shes having ago saying its my brother - family blah blah.

What shud i do? Gav is adamant he shudnt be there ad tbh i dont want him there either but i dont want my mam under anymore stress than she is alread?

Sorry its long winded!!

x

going to be blunt here

It's your son's Christening, You invite and un-invite who you damn well wish. It's not up to anyone else

Yikes! There are a few ladies on here that have or are currently going through family issues..and some of those issues would be certain family member's spreading ball-faced lies and rumors. I have a sister(s) that have done that..and I no longer speak with them. I will be frank...you need to confront your family member that is spreading these horrendous lies..and make sure everyone knows who it is..and what they said. I wouldn't sweep this under the rug because should the wrong person hear that you are a drug addict..they could very well open a can of worms with SS and have you and your OH investigated. DO NOT have him at your son's christening...why would you want someone there that is obviously trying to destroy your family and credibility..people like your step brother need to be confronted and dealt with..if your parents won't..then you and your OH should. Don't accept the unacceptable! Why is your mother protecting him..and not you? Sorry..for being so harsh sounding..just despise families(parents) that sit on their hands and allow certain siblings to say such horrible things and get away with it. xxx

I don't blame you one bit for not wanting him anywhere near you.

I would try to find a way of letting your mum know that you know it was him who told her without getting your mums friend in trouble x

Yeah well i was thinking about saying that Gavs brothers heard that it was him spreading rumours and take that route.

I need to tell her that I know about it and i can explain why i dont want him there. i think at the minute i do sound rather mean if u dont know the background.

also - not only this but he is currently being investigated for having sex with a teenage boy (he is gay!) Hes due up in court in the next cuple of weeks. So not only will it be a shit stirrer but also a suspected peedo!! x

(I'm so cross I typed my reply to this twice and it effing wiped it!)

Anyway, so a briefer version in case it disappears again - I reckon either way your mum will get stressed; if he is uninvited your mum might feel bad for a bit, but if he turns up you and gav are going to want to break his neck so that could cause loads more hassle and stress....

So I would tell him he isn't coming. I have no time for that kind of bullsh*t at all (I only tolerate funny bullsh*t )