Anyone else struggling with this atm? C is so goddam defiant and mouthy atm.

I have to work very hard on moderating my own tone as i know i can be a bit snappy sometimes when im tired and it makes the situation 100 times worse as shes as stubborn as i am and digs her heels in but even when im being calm it can be real hard work

i have had to naughty chair her 3 times this week for being rude and mouthing back when shes been asked to do something or stop something. Last night we had a total standoff over dinner, shes the worlds slowest eater anyway but she just sat and messed about and hadnt touched a mouthful by the time the rest of us finished so i let everyone else down and told her to sit there til she ate some so she had a few mouthfuls then flung the plate accross the table. Ended up putting her to bed straight from dinner at 615 and 20 mins of screaming later she shouted she wanted to eat her dinner-by which time id flung it. Tolld her she could have her milk and go to sleep. This morning thought she might be over it but gave her cereal 9which she asked me to buy her) and she refused to eat it so ended up sitting her at table and switching tv off and telling her she could either eat her brekkie or sit there til it was time for school. She actually gave in and ate her brekkie in the end.

It seems like a right trek though and i dont even know if im doing it right or just being a total tyrant. Is anyone else suffering from toddleritis atm?

Yep! The eating thing really gets us in a standoff because she knows full well we want her to eat so can really play us - her usual trick is to mess about until we tell her to eat it, she will then push it away and say 'dont want it', so we chuck it away and say she cant have anything else so she asks for her dinner back again

There are loads of times where she point blank refuses to do something I say so it ends up with us arguing and her FINALLY giving in. I'm 'sure' (hoping!) it just their age xxx

yes, at the moment we have all manner of 'no', throwing himself backwards, forwards, smacking himself in the face, throwing things, just screaming/shouting as loud as he can umm yes, i am a bit scared of what the terrible twos might hold...

Well dinner was better tonight. She was gonna start and i calmly asked if she wanted to go to bed early again tonight, she said no and started eating. She got a good way through and when she started to slow i partitioned off a bit more fish and said eat that and you can leave the rest and i will sort out pudding so she did

We have discussed her now having a later bedtime than Awen so we put Awen down at 645-7 and C can stay up til 715-730 and we can start doing a bedtime story again. Hoping it gives her some quality time with us and also if shes a good girl she stays up and if shes defiant or particularly naughty at dinnertime and bedtime or doesnt make an effort with dinner she goes to bed when Awen does. Works as an incentive for her. Will still use the naughty chair during the day for mouth etc as its more immediate and time out for tantrums.

Just feel like such a tyrant all the time :O who knew eh