hannahs such a sensitive little girl just now and its really worrying me.

She will get very embarrased when speaking around people and if they stop to listen to her she will stop talking and cuddle into me.
when watching a film if anything sad or scary happens she will literally burst into tears and it takes ages to calm her down.
she used to be very confident and would run off playing if we were out at softplay or whatever but recently I need to go in with her or she wont go in. we went to softplay yesterday and I managed to convince her to go in by herself without me but she would always be back within a few minutes nearly in tears. I can tell she wouldnt try and defend herself against kids who push etc and one little boy pushed her and she just ran to me crying. because of the way she is I get so defensive rather than just saying "hey that wasnt very nice your not supposed to push" I get almost angry and could take the head off the poor toddler and right now I would actually be kinda glad to see hannah push someone in softplay as awful as that sounds it would make me secretly glad to see her more like her confident self.

we tried dancing classes for a while. she lasted about 9/10 weeks as she was just clinging to my leg and not joining in. the problem was that the parents needed to be in the room with the kids and to be honest I think the problem is me she will happily go into nursery and the nursery have said at parents evening how confident she is and how she chats to anyone. its when shes around me she acts like this.

its so upsetting. I do think I am worrying over nothing if anything I just wanted someone to reassure me thats its normal. I was quite a sensitive shy child and I was always worrying what people thought of me etc and I dont want her to think like that.

I could have written that myself Steph. Amelia is the same, so sensitive. Watching a disney film can be pretty traumatic as she seems to empathise so much with the characters she always ends up in floods. If I take her somewhere she will cling to me and if we go to an unfamiliar place she won't leave my side. She won't even go into our conservatory unless I go with her.

We went to the zoo a couple of weeks ago and Amelia was pressing buttons on a display to hear the different monkey sounds. A little girl slightly younger than Amelia came over and took over the display and wouldn't let Amelia press the buttons so she just came and clung to me. When the little girl had gone I actually told Amelia that if she wanted to play and someone butted in like that to say that they could have their turn in a minute and carry on playing.

It worried me a lot so when I went into nursery for parents evening I asked them about it and if she "stuck up for herself" and was she confident? Did she share with the other children, and did she have friends? They said she was very confident but also caring towards the other children. They said she was quite motherly to them, making sure everyone got a turn and was generally a lovely little friend to a lot of the children. They said nothing fazed her and she just got on with everything. I was REALLY surprised.

So from my POV I think it's normal x

Chloe is very shy, not so much sensitive but it's like she has two personalities, when she's around people she knows well she's outgoing, chatty and confident, the second someone she's not sure of or doesn't know talks to her or cones near she turns into a clingy shy and withdrawn girl. I'm worried about her starting nursery in September.

Anyway I don't have an answer but just wanted to let you know you're not alone xx

aw thanks girls. glad to know its not just us going through this.

lisa - snow white and basil the great mouse detective are big heartbreakers for us haha.

I think what im going to do is try and find a class type thing for her to go to where the parents sit outside so she finds some new friends outside nursery and im not there to give her a reason not to join in.

Mandy I wouldnt worry she will probably be the same as hannah and amelia and be totally fine in nursery.

x