i hate it i get on well with ians son i always play football with him or lego ect and we get on well BUT his mother (ians ex) has said point blank im not aloud anywhere near him and if i do ian or his mum (his sons gran) will never see him again!
she said the girls can see him and ian can but i cant and sorry if i sound like a biatch here buyt there ever my girls go i go im not letting them go there and me be cut out like i some piece of spare paper!
so ian has a life where im not aloud in at all when hes on the phone to his son he always asks hoe daddy is and the girls BUT NEVER ME!
and his mum is poison shes turned him against me aswell so it sucks big time
all becoz she cant get over the fact me and ian are happy have two beautiful children and are gettin married!
why cant she just be an ADULT about it and move on like every other person would

Its really pathetic of her, I would hate to be in the situation of my kids dad was in a new relationship with kids too - but its not your fault so she cant blame you.

How old is he know?

hes 10 on wed! its not like we had an affire (sp) she used to beat him up throw irons at him drove him to border line alcoholic and he left her and i met him after

I know it seems a long time, but before your own kiddies are teens he will be able to make his own decisions, and if he doesnt mind seeing you his mum wont be able to say anything

Sounds like she's jealous of ian has with you and it's just her way of clouding your perfect family. Rise above it Hun, she's only doing it to piss you off. If you apear not to be effected or hurt by it, it will really infuriate her and she'll probably back track and change her mind.

Poor cow must have nothing better to think about.

As we all know, mums can be very a powerful influence.

My step dad was in a similar situation when we were little. We didn't see my stepbrother for 15 years in the end. My stepdad was so cut up over it.

My step brother was totally poisoned by his mum too.

He finally got back in touch 2 years ago, and he is a grown man now. We never thought it would happen.

Hang on in there and try to keep the lines of communication between Ian and his son open, it will be much easier when he is older for him to get to know you that way.

I guess she doesn't have a partner? She is probably worried that he will like you more than her... Every mothers worst fear.

X

No partner! I never had a problem with this.woman till she stooped so low and got me arrested she has admitted a few time she doesn't care about her son she just wants to hurt Ian what I think is really wrong as he is is the innocent person in her games

In my personal opinion Ian should get a backbone and stand up to her

He has every right to see his son and allow him to be part of your family - unless you've ever done anything to endanger him that she knows of then she can not stop him! Legally she hasn't a leg to stand on he needs to seek advice but I think if he just told her how it is she might fight him but as I say legally shes in the wrong !!!
The poor child is being dragged up with her opinions and it's unfair!
Im in a similar situation James has 11 yr old daughter from prev and I have 2 boys 11 and 6 and we have Hayden together. James regularly sees Chloe weekly alone as she lives about 40 mins from here so he goes after ad pops to his parents, occasionally we all go over but 4 kids and his parents are a nightmare
She is here now and she is treated the same told off if goby and noisy and has become part of us! It's a pain in the bum sometimes as she isn't one of mine and her mother quite obviously has diff rules about diet, exercise and what's acceptable to say

The hard thing is Ian stands up to her and that's it we dnt hear from his son for about 2 weeks when she got me arrested thou her lies they told us no contact with her as just gives her oil to start fire

The only thing you can do is ride it out then Hun
My son is 11 has Facebook account and mobile and is allowed to contact his dad whenever he wants. Perhaps suggest getting him a mobile phone so he can be in contact with his son and hopefully his son will eventually realise he wants to be part of your family.
I reckon though if Ian took legal advice he'd be able to change things!

He had a mobile but she took it from.him once we are married we will take it to legal Acton

aww hun, she sounds pretty jealous.. can he see you n not open his mouth to his mum? has ian tried to explain that its ard for him not to see you being your with ian and what not? x

Why did she get you arrested?? xx

Oh hun I'm so sorry your having to go through this, I think going down the legal route is your only option really if she's being a cow! x

She made up. Aloud of twoddle about threatening her what's complete rubbish

She sounds like she needs to grow up

Sorry your going through this char. Its unfair on you and ians son xx