My eldest son is 11 and never goes out!! He has no common sense at all either. He isnt interested in playing out although if i ever do force him to go out he does enjoy it but then will spend months inside watching tv or on his ps3!

He just idles around most of the time. My main worry is the crying! He will turn the water works on if he gets into trouble or if someone upsets him. He is really emotional. And he doesnt put much effort into anything. He is quite normal otherwise, like a laugh etc enjoys family days out.

I personally think its just pure laziness and the effort thing is laziness too.

Do you reckon he will grow out of it?

Probably, hopefully!

Have you tried getting him into some sort of outdoors hobby? Or anything that gets him out of the house and socialising?

I think half of the problem Lisa is we dont live anywhere near any of hi school friends but we are moving in a couple of week and he will be very near all his friends. Also he is starting Seniors so i am hoping he will be a bit more outgoing.

As for the hobbies etc i did start him at football but in the winter its just impossible with the other kids standing on a freezing field and you know what my child care situation is!! xx

I reckon you will see a big difference when he has his friends nearby - until I was 13 we lived in very close knit village with lots of kids my age so we did a lot of stuff together. We then moved house, were not in a village - very rural and 20 minutes car trip from my closest friends. Even though my mum drove us to the school bus and we stayed at the same school tbh I wish she had let us go to the local school - at least we would have had local friends then.

Was a very lonely 3 years til I left school and went to the local college and got new friends - my school friends went 25 minutes the opposite direction to a different college!

Mara, my Lewis is 11 in yr6 he has just started scouts and loves it it's very active. Lewis has always been quite outdoors- ie but lacks confidence, scouts is building that week by week!
It's def worth looking into