Just recently my LO has been getting himself into such a state (tantrums) that he is making himself physically sick Usually when he has a tantrum, if I am unable to distract him out of it, I just ignore it..but now this is happening I can't just ignore it - its so upsetting and I can't even disract/snap him out of it. More often than not its usually 'daddy related'...as OH has been home over xmas, if he leaves the room to go for a pee, or like last night he went to get his milk ready whilst I was finishing off getting his pj's on..Oliver got so upset in a matter of seconds and was gagging and was physically sick OH came to see what was going on and Oliver just got all clingy with him and took a good 15mins before he let him go.

Daddy literally can't go anywhere as Oliver kicks off, but we're not sure how to handle it as we feel like we have to give into him or he'll make himself sick. But then Oliver is learning he can get his own way by being sick, but when he does it - its not like he's intentionally doing it, he just get sooooo upset..so its not like we can disapline

What to do, what to do?!

ohhh I dont know for sure what I'd do

What about him explainng to him that he is going to make milk/go a wee etc and that he will be back, and then talking as he goes (a bit like when they got anxious when we left the room as babies)

I saw something similar on Supernanny on tv. She said its attention seeking and the best way is to ignore it. Just clean him up and carry on as normal so he doesnt ass it with getting his own way. She may have more info on her website hun xx

We've tried but over the past couple of days its just got worse..he gets himself in a right state. Its awful to watch OH has tried explaining and talking to him all the while but O just creates until he's in daddy's arms.

I'll check out the website. I've been trying not to acknowledge it but then I feel bad cos it doesn't seem like he's doing it deliberately and when he is sick he gets all the more upset.

I wonder if its like what C used to do (not sure if she still does) I remember Mario saying she passes out kinda thing..and that she doesnt know iit or do it on purpose she just holds her breathe in a paddy

If its that same thing in that they just lose control when they get so frustrated I don't think you can ignore it, cos he wouldnt be doing it on purpose so he's probably quite upset when it happens cos he doesnt understand?

It does sound like a similar thing to what C did. That how I feel too, I don't like to ignore it cos he gets even more upset when he's actually been sick, he looks so frightened We've managed to avoid any major tantrums today, but it has involved O being stuck to OH's side allllll-day! (which has been lovely for me, managed to catch up on all my sky+'d things )
He did have a hissy fit whilst we were all walking back from my mum's as he wanted OH to carry him..screaming down the street and he did gag a wee bit but then he was fine as OH carried him into the house.

OH's back to work Tuesday so hopefully things should get back to normal (hopefully) I feel bad cos its been nice having him home, but we need normality back

awwww I'd just want to hug him, but I dont think that would help!

ah zee braden does this too - he did it for a stage at bedtime - we were cleaning him up bathing him and giving him some attention and so it got more and more frequent.
Its horrible but we had to start ignoring him, literally changing him, bathing him without talking changing his bedding all in silence and putting him straight back into bed and walking off - it was horrible to do and i used to get so stressed knwoing he was going to be sick but it has actually worked - he hasn't done it for about 6 months now!
Hope you get oliver ppast it!
x

Thanks Nicola. Touch wood he hasn't done it the past 2 nights and i've managed to do his bedtime without him creating for daddy.
I've managed to find the Supernanny episode that amanda mentioned so i'll watch that, but I think i'll just do what you mentioned Nicola and try and not make a fuss.