Hi ladies

Can i ask some advice? Since we broke up and he decided to gove it till end february i'm so angry with him all the time. He only needs to sit on the sofa and i get annoyed.

He honestly doesn't even need to do anything and i get annoyed. He's seriously doing my head in all the time every day. I have to control my replies to him as i just want to snap at him and have a go.

There's been more arguements too and we're also having problems in the sex department as i just don't want it.

Can you help?

Dee
x

sorry dee cannot really help i know how you feel, i am the same at times and it doesn't matter what he does i just want to shout and have a go at him, maybe you should go to the doctors to see if you can talk to someone hope you feel better soon xx

aww dee. you have reasons to be mad at him. and he needs to lay off you for sex. like bloody hell, if that was perry i would logged him out of the window or got him a ass in a can lol

hope ur okie you know where i am cx

Becci - you know wot he says and does. Yesterday was not a good day altogether. I was in asda in the lift and nearly burst into tears. All i kept saying to myself was "i can't do this anymore" it's getting so hard to deal with. x

I know its your relationship, but honestly I think you should leave him. Regardless of pestering for sex/not helping/you being angry... what are you getting out of this relationship to make you happy? Apart from feeling like you love him... what else is there thats making you stay?

If you left him you maybe wouldnt be so angry, which mia will eventually pick up on, no one would be pestering you for sex and there would be less mess to deal with as he wouldnt be there to make it. You would be entitled to HB etc and im sure laura would help you arrange stuff if you asked her to. You have great friends, you dont need a man like this in your life hun. You and mia deserve to be happy and it doesnt seem like you have been happy in months.

If you really do want to give it a go, maybe you could see dr about being angry all the time, but honestly I think that would just fuel your OH in blaming you for the problems and give him an excuse to continue being a prat. Its him that needs to change and help you, not a dr.

Hugs. xx

I'm angry at him. I don't need a doctor. I'm fine when he's not around. x

Well if you know that yourself maybe its time for you to start making plans for the end of the month for you & Mia. Have you thought about were you could go/if he would leave the home instead?

I think you know what you need to do but its hard admitting that things are over when it hurts so much. has your OH said how he feels the months trial is going? Do you think he will just say its over at end of month? Iv never really been comfortable with how this is all on his terms. x

He seems to think we're fine and is even takling about booking a holiday. I asked him if we could talk about what happened and he said "can't you just let that go i thought we were past that". If we don't fix what's wrong it's not gonna work. He always just sweeps it all under the rug. x

Hmmm, this is a hard one hun.

If he isnt prepared to talk, have you tried writing him a letter?

Get it all off your chest and he can read it over and over until it finally sinks in?

x

That didn't work the month before when we split either. He just asked why i wrote it. x

I think you need to ditch him Dee he is obviously not making you happy. I think you have tried your best xxxxx

He obviously isn't making you happy, I think its time to have a serious think about wether it's all worth it x

I know. I'm at war between my emotions and my head. x

u have fought and worked at it and gave, gave, gave, gave and gave! how many more years you gonna do this for before u open ur eyes ?!

sorry xx