My mum and MIL share Aimee in the mornings when I work. My mum does 3 mornings a week and my MIL does 2.

Anyway, I dont want to sound picky, but whenever she goes to my MIL's she never changes her nappy.

I collected her at midday, and she had been in the same nappy since 7am and was soaked through to her trousers. My MIL even commented on a) how wet her trousers were and b) how heavy her nappy was, but didnt change it... and on top of that... SHE STANK OF WEE!

When Aimee has a sore bottom (rarely) we do make a point of asking her to change it, but then she drifts back to not doing it again.

So, what do I do? Tell my MIL to change it (which she prob still wont, which will then rile me), or grin and bear it for 2 months before I start my mat leave and then I wont have to worry about it again?

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I would deffo tell her as i would be unhappy about it soaking through etc as it must be uncomfy for Aimee. Why wont she do it?

not good! explain to yor MIL if Aimee gets a sore bum it wil be her doing... dont your MIL like changing nappies?! or is there any other reason why? x

I dont think she 'wont' do it as much as 'doesnt'. I really dont get it, tbh.

I think she will be offended if I ask her to do it, and I would tell my OH to tell her, but he has no tact whatsoever and will cause upset.

Her clothes are always covered in mud and dirt when I pick her up too. I actually went out and got her some cheaper clothes to send her there in now, as I am sick of throwing away all of her new outfits from Next.

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when you are work you dont want to have to worry, and part of looking after a child is changing them,

and if i causes upset, it is'nt yor fault, it only takes a couple of secs to change a nappy, no excuse for your MIL not to x

from someone who has had a child thats bum bleeds whenever you touch the skin i would just say to her that you would like a nappy change done around 10am please to ensure aimee does not get a sore bum , maybe lie a little and say her bum was a wee red last night or something ?

or is she gullible enough to belive if you suggest a 10am nappy change as once you are on maternity leave you want to get aimee into a midmorning routine of nappy starting to be removed on your venture to start potty training ?

Next time you pick her up and her nappy's full id say all innocent 'oh thats a heavyu one what time did you change her' then if she admits she hasnt changed her say 'well thats why i keep having to treat her sore bum then...'

I just feel like I am going to cause a rift over something that wont happen for much longer anyway.

Esp, after the whole Centerparcs incident, lol!

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Yeah but whats gonna happen when you go back to work again after this un, it will start again with the new baby? If so i'd stop it now

Youve got to tell her Laura, i know it might cause trouble with her but its not fair on Aimee either, i would get ur oh to tell her as he would tell her straight to the point!

marioandthestuntbubs wrote:

Yeah but whats gonna happen when you go back to work again after this un, it will start again with the new baby? If so i'd stop it now

Im not sure that I will be going back to work after this next one is born. Well, probably not my old job. I will probably just continue working for my brother after my maternity leave so I can do it at home.

If that is the case then on the rare occasions they have the kids, I will make a point of handing a nappy over and giving them a time to do it x

I would tell a bit of a big lie and say that her bum was really sore so you went to gp/hv and they have told you that she must have her nappy changed at least every 2 hours. Don't blame mil just say it's because she has a super sensitive bum or something.

BabyMilly wrote:

I would tell a bit of a big lie and say that her bum was really sore so you went to gp/hv and they have told you that she must have her nappy changed at least every 2 hours. Don't blame mil just say it's because she has a super sensitive bum or something.

Thats a good idea
Does your MIL talk to your mum? If so tell your mum the same just in case