Hey!
Um its actually no were near as hard as I thought it was going to be
! (forgeting about Stuart - def harder looking after him atm) I set myself up for utter hell. Think it helps if you think of the worst and then it can only be better. Im aware that Joshua still immobile & sleeping large chunks of day so it wont stay this simple for long.
Anyway being a mum of 2 so far...
Yup im all healed, only a few stitches (compared to episiotomy with Caitlin) and it never really stung to pee. Maybe the odd wince in 1st day or 2 but nothing scary. Was stiff for about a week and for 3 weeks sorta felt a bit strange when I coughed (like insides might fall out my bum
), but not bad at all... day 10 I was driving and at the work xmas party with Joshua on my own - wearing the dress I wore last xmas day may I add, go me lol.
Sleep- I think im getting more than most new mums, or else Caitlin really was an abnormal baby. My memories of her first few weeks was screaming/walking floors/up half the night. We still dont have a routine and im 100% on the btls now
but its kinda working ok. He sleeps for an hr or 2 solid after Caitlin goes to bed at 830pm,so can nap then (I rarely do but I should start). Usually dont get to bed until between 1 & 230am as he likes to play about, but then might sleep until 530am, have btl and be back to sleep at 615am and then sleep on until 1030am. Im lucky that Caitlin usually sleeps until 930/10am so in theory I could be getting 8 hrs a night in 2 or 3 decent enough blocks. Each night is dif but usually get 3-4 hrs between feeds anyway.
Meals - As we arent the bestest cooks in the world lol, the meals didnt really slip much tbh
Still eating our usual masterchef meals of freezer - oven food. At meal time Josh sits in his chair and sleeps, maybe once or twice a week he wakes and shouts/crys but I can wolf my tea down and then feed him as he usually just grunting/protesting - not full on wailing. Caitlin is the bigger pain in the arse at tea time with her protests and shouts of 'disgusting, no!' before giving in and eating it anyway
Number 3 -There will be no number 3!!!!!! Hmm well actually I have shocked myself by having daydreams about it - SILs fault! But nope being realistic we couldnt afford it. The jump to 3 I think would be too hard for me to manage, eg bigger car to fit car seats, rely on mum/MIL for childcare when I do overnights so leaving 3 would be too much. Joshua/having more than 1 child hasn't put me off another, I guess its just the practicalities/financial issues they would bring. Any-time I think the crazy thought of number 3 I remember what the last 15 mins of labour pushing were like and it soon leaves me!
Guilty - Um no I dont strangely, as that was something I worried about. Caitlin adores Joshua. She wants him to sit on her knee all the time (well for 10 seconds and then announces " he too Heaby mummy" and near throws him off her), she trys to give him his btl, plays kissy kissy with him, tells him who is on tv "look joshiwa its mr tumble".... She sometimes asks me too put joshua back in his chair and then climbs up for a cuddle but there no major jealousy issues really. She is at my mums tonight & cried getting into car as joshua wasnt coming with her. I cant really think of anything she has missed out on since Joshua arrived. Think me being tired/sick during pg last summer was the hardest bit for her.
Work - Do you know what... if my work did 4hr bank worker shifts I actually think I would consider doing 1 or 2 a week atm lol. I miss the craic with the young people and the money would be handy as I dont get mat pay. I really do feel normal ish and dont think id mind leaving joshua with my mum for those lengths of times. No way on earth would I have considered it with Caitlin. Im nearly tempted to say maybe thats cause I BF her. Im not saying I bonded better with her (Jesus Christ it was hard to bond with the banshee that she was lol), but I do think nature makes you more panicky/a NEED to be with them as obviously you are keeping them alive. With Joshua on btls I dont have to worry about him going hungry. Could be a 2nd child thing though, not sure. My work only do 12 or 25 hour shifts and it will be a few months yet I think before id be up for them. In fact the 25 hr shifts make me want to cry.
Puppy - Dont you know I have a fear of dogs!!!!
I think iv sold the idea of a 2nd quite well! You need to ttc NOW! Im quite certain a house will fall out of the sky with your name on it
Oh and Mr Mari will get a job offer the very same day!