Just wondered what people's thoughts were on this? Me and Adam were just talking about it and he said he would smack Jamie whereas I said I wouldn't. Admittedly that's partly because I'd only do it when I was angry and it would just be a reaction and I don't think that's wise and I have nothing against giving him a little tap on the hand. Obviously we need to find something we agree on for when Jamie gets bigger so I would be interested in your views. I certainly don't think its child abuse (which is what I've heard some people say) and its possible we would come to a compromise where one of us does one thing and the other another but that's not ideal

LOL I had a 'discussion' on FB about this

Apparently according to 'experts' smacking causes problems and the kid will always be damaged - apparently I have issues and I am damaged because I was smacked and worse still I dont think my parents were monsters for doing it

I won't smack Izzy as I'd rather use other options, but I dont think its abuse when its done after warning, and not in anger

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LOL I had a 'discussion' on FB about this

Apparently according to 'experts' smacking causes problems and the kid will always be damaged - apparently I have issues and I am damaged because I was smacked and worse still I dont think my parents were monsters for doing it

I won't smack Izzy as I'd rather use other options, but I dont think its abuse when its done after warning, and not in anger

This is my feeling. I'd rather use other ways but I suppose Adam ought to be able to use his ways. Oh well. Its not like we're going to do it now so I guess we have plenty of time to find a solution that suits us

i have smacked lewis on his bum(over nappy) or his hand and tbh all it's done is made me feel mean and made him cry
if he does something bad and doesn't listen to me then i will warn him, and if he still doesn't listen he gets a smack(have to follow through on the threat)
but recently i've found that smacking him isn't necessary as just putting him in the naughty corner(even if it's in the middle of mothercare/asda etc!) has a better effect than a smack on the bottom
currently taking his dummy away, telling him when he calms down, apologises and behaves himself he'll get it back is working a treat! we've been doing this for about a week now and today, after weeks of going around the supermarket with him hitting/screaming/kicking/swiping things off the shelves etc, he behaved perfectly as he's learned i'll give him a proper punishment rather than a smack on the bum which he can barely even feel
saying all this...if sam feels the need to tap his bottom or hand, then i don't interfere or make it known that i don't agree with it as i think lil dude would pick up on this instantly

I don't think there is anything wrong with giving your kids a smack if that's the way you want to deal with bad behaviour.
personally I think it just makes things worse and where do you go from that, if a smack doesn't work what is the next punishment iykwim.

That's my opinion too. I think I might have another chat with Adam and explain that but then accept we might punish him in different ways. I guess its more important that we're consistent in what we punish. He is a very disobedient little boy. He does sometimes stop when you say no and cry but normally he says yes and keeps doing it or just ignores you. His too small for a naughty step at the moment as he won't stay but we have found time out has been the most effective method. If we have to say no a couple of times we put him on our lap, hold him still and make no contact with him for a minute and he normally stops afterwards. I'd rather continue with this

I will give Noah a smack/tap on the hand if his been naughty and put him to bed. This isnt very often only in extreme cases lol. His generally good, OH dont hit him at all.

Char

I think a little smack on the hand or butt won't harm them but i used over 1 years old the naughty step and when nursery age like he is now i use the thinking area . Both worked for me and my little one well and i wish i knew these ways years ago with my 11 year old .

I've never smacked/hit Libby and dont intend to, we use the naughty corner instead or take something away from her as punishment and it works well. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with it - I was smacked when I was a child and I'm not damaged.... much I just know full well if I did hit Libby and 10 mins later she came and gave me a cuddle and said 'I love you mummy' I would feel tremendous guilt and couldnt forgive myself.

my oh says i will smack your bum every 10 minutes and it drives me nuts lol.
However they do get a smack/tap on the bum or hand now and again if they do somethign really naughty like run into a road or away from me in a car park etc but usually i just need stern words to make them cry lol
x

Before we had Sophia, we both said it did us no harm and we would be prepared ot do the same with Sophia. Since we have had her our feelings have changed as its the last thing we would want to do.

I have smacked Sophia on the hand once as she ran into the road at a turning (it was a quiet road but there was a car on hte way). I think i did it more out of fear and panic than anything. It taught me that for me it doesnt work, she was over tired and thats why she ran off and any kind of me retaliating was only gonna make her laugh so no help whatsoever. But is uppose if it had been more measured and i gave a warning then it would have hit home more but as other things work usually i dont think its necessary.

I have found personally for us that what worked best was if she did act out, like when she went through a stage of running towards the road after nursery, the thing that worked best was making her sit down in a safe place and not go ANYWHERE until she said sorry. It took twenty minutes of sitting on the cold ground but she has not done it really since.

I am undecided still whether we will use smacking when she is older but i think if we do it will be the very last option and obv will only be a tap on the hand or her bottom.

MAndy xx