OH phoned said how your day been blagh blagh. I said been thinking he said what about i said stuff.

He then went your period shown up yet. I said no and he said well it bloody wants too. Cos we cant afford it we'll be homeless and we'll be living on the streets.

He's really upset me.

I've already gone through what i'd be paid when i'm off and i:l have all my hols to take now i know i can save them. But even being off on maternity leave i can stilll cover all my side of the bills and rent food and even petrol money and still have 150 left a month. I dont get what he's on abot

the big insensitive bugger!

although maybe its what you said last night that he gets really dissapointed when af arrives.

did you tell him about the test????


he will be fine hun once he knows xxxxx

no i've not told him yet. Dont think i want to now. I'm gonnago through his out goings and wages and show him what we have left after everything.

Once its in black and white he might shut up. I'd be taking home a part time wage which he'/ been telling me he wants to do

i think he has just built sonething up in his mind, he just needs a bit of reassurance and a glance at a BFP he will come good xxxxxxxx

Oh you poor thing, that really wasn't the most sensitive thing for him to say was it I'm sure he's just thinking about the financial side of it so he knows he can keep you all safe and happy, but he's probably got himself all stressed and nervous too and is lashing out.. it's not right, but it seems to be a man thing! Give him a huge kick up the bum and tell him you've got it covered anyway, so he just has to sit in the corner and concentrate on looking pretty.

oh that's horrible timing! I wonder if he will be different when it is actually a reality???

Are you sure that he isn't just making good reasons in his head as he expects your af to turn up so thinks it will be easier to say things like that.

He will be so so happy when you tell him x x

^^ ditto'ed - what Laura said Kelly xx

Well he left me a voicemail calling me a selfish cow we cant afford it right now how could i do it to rowan.

So i've told him we need to sit down and look at the money then talk about it like adults

Am I right in thinking you are both actively trying 'cos he's a bit late to have a sudden attack of the vapours if so?! And the selfish cow comment is well out of line - adult talk needed indeed! Good luck xx

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Well he left me a voicemail calling me a selfish cow we cant afford it right now how could i do it to rowan.

well you certainly didn't do it on your own! And if you did you could make a fair bit of money out of that trick!

It isn't that expensive, it just sounds like he is panicking...god help my hubby if he spoke to me like that!

Aw Hun, sounds just like my oh when I told him about this one!! I did tell him for ages if you remember told you lot 1st. I had pretty much the same response.he told me my af better show up! He even tried saying I did it on purposewhich totaly wasn't the case!!
He even mentioned the A word but I said noway!! & he's totaly against it himself he really didn't want this baby.

But now he's come around he's all excited just as I am, think it's a man thing to 'run away' so to speak. Don't worry I'd tell him &then he can start to get his head around it all. He will come around xx xx

he couldnt have timed it worse if he tried. Maybe he's just got cold feet or by some weird stupid man logic he's trying to stop you getting your hopes up. I'm sure once he knows his attitude will change xx

Omg, Kelly..I'm sure Trev is a woman deep down lol, the mood swings and indecisive nature I thought it was just us girls that did that lol

As the other girls have said, you surely haven't done this on your own hun. People cope and i'm sure you 2 will too, its not like you have to fork out on all the big stuff again is it?

Don't let his comments get you down, he sounds like he's being a bit of a prick tbh..how dare he say your selfish!! and doing this to Rowan?!
Doing what to Rowan, exactly??

He played his part too!!

Sending big hugs chick. xxx

Aww Kelly ((((((((hugs))))))) men have such pish timing. I agree with Mandy - it might be just some twisted man logic to stop you getting your hopes up. However I do agree with Zee also that he is being a git and how dare he say you're selfish. And what exactly are you doing to Rowan? giving him a little brother/sister, a companion to grow up with, somebody to confide in, somebody to play with a on mingin winter afternoons? bringing a whole load of extra love into his life? Oh yeah that's so selfish of you hun

Hope you're ok hunni - we worried about the money side of things having another but it works itself out in the end, having a second isn't as much of a strain as your first you'll be fine.

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awww Kelly sorry to hear this. Men are so crap at feelings, especially ours xx

Aw Kelly - just ignore him, Simon was exactly the same, I said to him that we should get some tests just in case and he was saying that I'd better not be as he didn't want another one blah blah blah (and I don't know if you remember how I've been wanting another for ages and he was adament he didn't), but as soon as I showed him the test he was over the moon. xx

aww hun!!

tht pretty much sucks! how can he callyou selfish!? like wth? i would sit down with him n explain that it would be okay if u have another baby n that you guys can addford it.. n then see how he goes n then tell ya your pregnant but make it all nice kinda thing.. then tell him that he is a sod n upset you on what he said n get a sorry. hope things are okie xx