Ok so me and Connie's dad have split up (he's still living here, moving out on 18th). My mum usually looks after Connie while we work, but she is off on her happy holidays for a week on 13th. We had made arragemets (before the split) for Connie to go and spend a few days with my ex's parents. Then my ex was taking a few days off to cover the time my mum would be away.

Since we have split his parents seem to have taken a dislike to me. Connie stayed with them a few weeks ago, and while they were up to pick her up his mum didn't speak a single word to me and his dad got up and left the room when I entered. I found this extremely rude considering they were sat as guests in MY house. Every connie related question was aimed at my ex, which was ridicuous considering he is clueless, he doesn't know wot is in the bag I packed, what snacks I have packed for the journey, what dvd I have for her to watch on the way down - so I answered her questions, LOUDLY.

My ex has now just informed me that he's arranged to do overtime on Tues evening/Sat morning. When his parents would be collecting/leaving connie home - so Iam goin to have to face them alone. I know already that I don't really want her to go anymore. I don't want to backtrack pull out because I think it will look petty and as though I'm stopping them from seeing their grandchild - which i'd never do. But if they attempt to treat me the way the did last time I will have no problem telling them to *$%£ right off and to forget it.

I'm worried that my ex is spinning them a load of shite and lies about me and perhaps thats why they are acting how they are. I get the impression my ex has told them I cheated on him, because telling his parents that I just don't have the same feelings for him anymore was too difficult.

To be honest I'm hurt. I've never did anything to wrong them - EVER. My ex and I are adults, and we make our own decisions and have been thoughtful to eachothers feelings and made arrangements to move on without havin to involve our families and turn it into a war. I alway liked his family, and to be perfectly honest they are making a rod for their own back behaving like this with me - as I was always the one who bent over backwards to accomodate them seeing Connie, and suggesting visits - even with me on a bus with Connie for 2 and a half hours just to see them. Something I won't be doing for people who treat me like this!

I'm not a bad person, I don't feel like I deserve this for being true to myself xx

At the end of the day you are the beter person here, leve them to it if the want to be childish let them, they'll only be spiteing themselves because your not going to send you daugher to people who behave like that

That is so out of order. I'm horrified that they're treating you like this. I think it's time to have stern words with Connie's Dad and get him to ask his parents to treat you with the respect you deserve. You're not a bad person, you've not done anything wrong. If they're still really off with you ask them why and see what they say. Like you said they shouldn't be burning their bridges! Hope it goes ok xxx

It is a real shame they are taking this approach. If they have always been ok with you in the past then my suspicion would be the same as yours, ie that he is telling them a load of bull about you.

If they are really off with you would you feel able to ask them if there is a problem and see what they say. I would not be able to help myself and would have to say something! x

See I've been smoldering over this for about 3 weeks. I had planned to say bye to Connie and get my hugs and kisses privately and just go for a walk while they were here, as my ex was supposed to be here. I don't want a confrontation with them.

Him working has thrown a spanner in the works!

I know I can be quite hot headed. I'm worried that I'll lose my temper and tell them to leave - without Connie! Why would I want to pack my child off with people that can't even muster polite conversation with me?

I don't kow if I'd want to ask what their prob is - incase they tell me he has been sayin things. I don't want confrontation with him either, things have been very calm and done properly -like I wanted for Connie's sake. If I find out he's been lyin about me, the shit will hit the fan and the whole thing will go tits up lol.

You need to have a frank and honest talk with him and ask him why they're being so off with you. Can you demand that he cancel the overtime? O postpone/cut it short, so that he is there? Or ask them to pick her up when he will be available? x

He's told me that he can't change it. His parents have 2 and a half hours of traveling to Connie back to theirs and he doesn't finish work until 9pm.

He said that his mum and dad aren't "not talking to me" just finding it awkward. But in my opinion it was jst plain rude! My parents are findin it quite awkward but go out of their way to talk to him and let him know he's more than welcome in their house.

I think he's done it deliberately to be honest!x

ahh jo i understand what your going through.. as a few now me and oh split for awhile.. and isntantly his parents stopped calling txt or emailing..i asked dan why and he said well we arnt togetehr anymore why should they !! im only there grand kids mother!! i had done nothing wrong it was there son!!

so now that we are back together they asked to speak to me t he other night and i refused..
they havnt asked about kids or seen them so they can bugger off same with a few other people that divided when we split !! and now want contact now where back together ..im afraid i hold a grude and im stubborn so they can feck off!!

i think i would be more inclinded to tell them to f off.. but its not always best desicion ..try and talk first and see what they say! if they are still rude .. them tell them so and stand your ground x

I guess I need to just suck it up and be the bigger person eh. Perhaps I should kill them with kindness and put on a spread lol x