right...well i planned my wedding 3yrs ago before i fell pregnant with lily-ann but it never happened(lack of cash and a belly bump!) i asked my brother's partner to be maid of honour and she proper took over telling me what i couldn't have/do and planning what dress i was gonna wear, took over the cake etc

3yrs on the wedding is booked but i've just emailed the 'maid of honour' with:

'hi hun, just letting you know my wedding is booked for 15th jan!!

i know i originally asked you to be maid of honour, i hope you're not offended but i've put you down as a normal guest as i want you to sit back, relax and enjoy a fantastic day with ian with no stresses!...please don't be offended'


does that sound bad?? i really am not in the mood to piss people off or have them offended xxx

no it dont sound bad at all! its ur wedding ur choice

I think that sounds absolutely fine hun xx

I think that is fine Kenty.

It is yours and Sam's day and you should have who you want as maid of honour.

xx

I think that waas quite polite lol xxx

Sounds fine to me hun

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thanks girls!! am trying to deal with so many expectations from my family at the mo that i'm trying to keep people happy, but also keep my wedding day as my own!!

these are the type of people that sneer and slate you behind your back, so no doubt on the day i'll get told she's slating me

Ooooh I admire how honest and up front you are!

Me? I'd say nothing and then just make up a lame excuse like "well to be honest, now that we have the kids etc I was just going to have something low key and thought id rather have you enjoy self".

I can be quite flakey when it suits!

Kenty you always come across as a lovely, honest person so if it feels right to you, go with it.

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kenty wrote:

thanks girls!! am trying to deal with so many expectations from my family at the mo that i'm trying to keep people happy, but also keep my wedding day as my own!!

these are the type of people that sneer and slate you behind your back, so no doubt on the day i'll get told she's slating me

if she is slating you on your wedding day give her a slap!!..

That sounds good Kenty! Good on you for not just going along with the old plan. She's deserve to fall smack on her face if she slated you!!! xxx

lisa...when i was pregnant with lewis she sat at a table with my father, sister and all my brothers and their wives and informed everyone with a sneer that i'd never be a size 8 again!!! then went on for week slagging me off to everyone who would listen cos i dared talk back to her during a disagreement

forget the slap .. knock the cow out!! what a rude person!

I think you have been lovely letting her know in a polite way..you could have just avoided the situation. Anyway. it's your day and if some people don't like what you are doing or the things you have picked then TOUGH as it is YOUR day

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That was very polite x
Ypou wedding u have what u want its not about them xx

ah carla...i wish it wasn't about my family...but apparently it is! i've got some whinging about having to pay hotel fees, some demanding that if i buy bridesmaid dresses i have to buy matching shoes and a make up artist, one bridesmaid(my sister) constantly trying to take over and get one up on the other bridesmaid...if it wasn't booked and deposit paid i'd definitely say f*ck it!

Tell them to buy their own feckin shoes and pay for their own mops doing!!!!!!! Cheeky twats Faye!!!

OMG Kenty, I'm suprised you've not sacked them all off and run away and ties the knot somewhere hot! One word for you SIL - BINT! x

Tell em to get stuffed!! ALL my bridesmaids bought their own dresses shoes etc (apart from Lottie I bought hers). I told them they could be bridesmaides but had to buy their own dresses etc as I simply couldn't afford it and they were all fine about it, expect my not so nice sister. She didn't come to the wedding until 9.30pm (I got married at 1pm!!) but TBH she wasn't missed.

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No hun you are just right. At the end of the day it is your's and Sam's day so its up to you who you have as a bridesmaid.

I think I would look ok in a bridesmaid dress (hint Hint|) pmsl

i really don't mind buying the dresses, and have even said i'll pay for a make up artist on the day...but my sister has basically told me i'm buying the shoes and is even hinting at a little matching handbag

now you girls know i've got about 8k to pay for this wedding(then the full 25k is gone!) but i've told all my family that i'm skint and paying everything in instalments etc and not one of them has offered to buy their own dresses

your not a cow at all!! alot can change in 3 years and all in all its YOUR day, so your choice!! it will be an amazing day!! xxxxx

Get them told!!!!!!! they know you aren't working and if they don't know about the rest of the money then how do they think you are paying for it!

Don't be scared to upset them hun, they are obv not worried about upsetting you!!!

If you offer to buy the dresses then TELL them they have to buy everything else themselves....I know lots of people that have done this!
xx

but i'm a big soft shyte that just bows down and says 'yes sir' to everyone!! lol

i think i'm starting to drive sam mental with letting everyone walk all over me!