I am so fed up of my MIL being so bloody sensitive and thinking everything is about her!!!!!!!!!!!!

Dave and I were invited out for a meal and then on to a pub for one of our friend's birthday's tonight. We asked MIL if she would be able to baby sit and she said yes. Only the next day she said that she'd have to have Amelia at her's as she has people staying. Fair enough but Amelia will be staying at my Mum's Sun and Mon night as we're at a wedding where Dave is best man. Now Amelia is great when she stays out but she's VERY clingy for the next few days and tends to "punish" us be being very sensitive and grumpy/tantrumy. So I didn't want to upset her before she had to stay at my Mum's as I want her to be her usual happy self to make my mum's life as easy as possible.

Now I tried to make an excuse when MIL said she'd have to stay at her's but it fell on deaf ears, so Dave had to call this morning and let her know. Well apparently she is really upset and thinks it's because we don't trust her. FFS he explained our exact reasons and does she honestly think that we'd let her have Amelia at all or even ask if we didn't trust her????!!!!!! Gah I'm just so annoyed as now we have to tiptoe around her and pander to her to make her feel "loved" again. She can just be so needy!!!

Sorry I just needed to vent before I rang and told her to stop being so over sensitive!!! x

What a nightmare!

Its horrible when they are over sensitive. My mum is a flipping nightmare with it.

Aimee has never stayed out over night and our parents have given up asking. After we had got over the medicication issues (which I dont like to let anyone else give her other than me and James), I just 'know' that she would be a total nightmare at wherever she was staying.

Just ignore her, she will get over it x

how annoying!!!

It really annoys me when the situation is explained and is so clear as to the reasons, but people still make out its personal and then get the hump about it!
Hope you have had a good night, are you home or is it Daves turn?

im mean, id purposly punish her... make excuses. booger pandering to her

I wouldnt pander to her either. My mil bumped into my mum and hannah in the street one day and my mil burst into tears to my mum saying she never gets to see hannah (which is bullcrap) I phoned her up and told her to get a grip and stop acting so pathetic. it was pure jealousy because I let my mum look after her and dont let my mil. she worked for an afterschool care and was sacked for walking away from a little boy on a day out to buy a cup of tea and he crossed a road himself and she expects me to say yes no problem take my wild toddler out for the day!

sorry that turned into my own rant but shes your baby your rules!
x

wanna borrow my flag?

Sounds exactly like my MIL! Caitlin has never stayed there either. I really dont think MIL would cope, she panics too much and I think everytime Caitlin squeaked she would lift her outta her sleep. Your baby your choice! I hate feeling like I have to justify every fecking childcare decision and show that im being 'fair' to all grandparents .
You are right to decide where amelia sleeps. Its not like you said she could never see her again fgs!

Steph my MIL was the same. Bumped into my mum in town one day and started crying how she had never taken Caitlin out a walk in the pram before (she was about 9wks old at the time).

IMO MILs expect a ridiculous amount and half the reason we prefer our own mums is because they aint so demanding and dramatic about seeing the LO's.
xxx

We dont have aggro like that so cant really say what its like when mils and that get upset x
I can see why you dont want her to stay there. I can see why u want amelia to be in a good mood when she stays with your mum xx