After reading Mara's post about emotions and family it got me thinking about my own situation.

I haven't spoken to any member of my Dads family in over 5 years all because my Dads sister was sleeping with my boyfriend (at the time) behind my back and because I chose to no longer acknowledge the pair of them my Dads family fell out with me.
I have thought about this in the past about whether I should make the first move but then something stops me and I think 'why should I, I didn't do anything wrong' but then I also know that none of them will make the first move as they are all very stubborn and think it's just one of those things and I should get over myself.
The person I feel sorry for the most in all of this is my Dad..we still speak and he also still speaks to his sister (who is now married to my ex...my ex is now my uncle..weird ) and it must be very difficult for him being in the middle.

Do you think it's wrong of me to feel the way I do and that I should just get over myself or would you feel the same if faced with the same situation?

In all honesty both my brother and I have always felt that we were treated like the black sheep (so to speak) of the family in my Nan's eyes and yet we have never done anything wrong unlike my cousin who has spent time in prison because of drugs and has got a reputation in the town where he lives for being the biggest p**s head ever to be born and yet my Nan thinks the sun shines out of his butt....I just don't get it.

Thanks for reading my waffle....it will be nice to read other people's take on the situation

Naomi xxx

Personally it sounds like you are well out of it. Although i can understand your concern for your Dad. If the family would all like you to get on then they need to apologise, it is not you that needs to make the effort. When you have a family of your own it makes you reassess things, maybe the new baby will bring you all together again? If that's what you want? x x x

Hmmmm.... do you really want to be part of a family who would treat you like that when you 'were' getting on?

I wouldnt. I also think that you are probably best out of it.

As long as you have a good relationship with your dad, then that is the main thing.

x

They don't sound like family to me hun x

I agree with Laura, if you still have a good relationship with your dad then bugger the rest of them hun.

Do you feel like you have missed out not having them in your lives?? can they bring anything good to your life??
i suppose thats the question, if its yes then maybe you need to make a move, if not then you are doing just great without them xx

NayNay79 wrote:

I haven't spoken to any member of my Dads family in over 5 years all because my Dads sister was sleeping with my boyfriend (at the time) behind my back and because I chose to no longer acknowledge the pair of them my Dads family fell out with me.
I have thought about this in the past about whether I should make the first move but then something stops me and I think 'why should I, I didn't do anything wrong' but then I also know that none of them will make the first move as they are all very stubborn and think it's just one of those things and I should get over myself.
The person I feel sorry for the most in all of this is my Dad..we still speak and he also still speaks to his sister (who is now married to my ex...my ex is now my uncle..weird ) and it must be very difficult for him being in the middle.

Do you think it's wrong of me to feel the way I do and that I should just get over myself or would you feel the same if faced with the same situation?

Naomi xxx

So your aunt cheated on your with your bf and you are worried you are in the wrong? Hon they aint worth a second of your time

Thanks ladies....having had a think about it for the last few hours i've decided that as long as I have still got my Dad then I don't need the rest of them. I don't feel I have missed out in the last 5 years and don't think I will in the future....onwards and upwards..i've got a lot to look forward and do not need to dwell on the past.

Thanks again ladies

Love to you all xxx

Wow I'm sorry that happened to you! In what universe is it ok for a family member to do that?
your definatly better without them in your life!

I cant believe your aunty did that to you! I agree you've got your dad and thats what matters. X