Matt and I have decided to take a break. I hate that phrase but not sure what else to call it. He's gone to stay with a friend for a bit. It was more my decisive. I just feel like crap cause he was so upset. I feel like my head is a mess right now. I had a really good summer seeing my friends and then finding out i was pregnant, then things fell apart a bit having the miscarriage and all my friends had gone back to uni so i didn't feel like a had a lot of support. Most of the issues i have with our relationship &me have been there for a long time. You've probably read a post or two about it at some point. I don't know what finally made me confront it but i was sick of trying to fix it and not much happening and then pretending it was all ok.

Sorry to ramble, just had to get it out. We've decided not to tell friends/family at least for now so i feel like i have all this stuff just trapped in my head. I'm really hoping this break will show me how much i do love him and how much i do want to be with him. I really don't want this to be it, but i'm scared it is.

i hope having a bit of space helps you to figure out what you want + need

hope things work out Shell, at least you made the decision rather than staying how you were and being unhappy.

Thinking of you hun xxxxxx

aww im thinking of u hun hopefully a few days apart will do u the world of good xx

ah shell i dont know what to say except i hope it works out well in the end hun xx

Michelle,

I can only imagine had hard it was for you to do this and hopefully this break helps your relationship with Matt but whatever happens you will look back at this and know that this was the right thing to do.

I'm sure there are a lot of people (me included) that wishes we could have been strong enough and taken this sort of step to reassess a relationship.

Better to do this noq than to let it eat away inside of you and pretend all is okay.

Take care.

xTx

Thnks ladies, i'm really hoping this is what we need - some space and it will help in the end xx

big mahoosive huggle hun,,, hope it all works out in end xxxxx

must be difficult keeping it all to yourself so remember we are all here is you need to talk,cry shout or moan x x

Aw hun, no advice but just wanted to give you a virtual xx

I'm sorry you are going through all this hun. Do you think you two are just stuck in a rut? xxx

Michelle you are very brave taking a break, and I mean that in a nice way. I have pondered it myself at times but then got too scared as to what family/friends would say- actually how Stuarts family would react tbh. I really respect you for making that decision.

You are doing what you feel is best for you and immi. There is no point being unhappy when you can change a situation. You are sooo young & have a bright happy life ahead of you whether thats married to matt or not. He'l always be a big part of your life and there for immi.

Really hope things work out the way you want . x

Oh michelle I hope you are ok, I was there at the beginning of the year, now my oh has just handed in hit notice on his flat and will be moving back in!
Sometimes space is a wonderful thing! It was a tough 9 months but alot can change!

Big hugs to you and your princess! Were always here to listen! x

really hope the space makes things better for you hunnie, lots of hugs xxx

some space is good, but keep up some kind of communication, as they say its good to talk

space is good and clare is right make sure you keep in contact. maybe text him to say hi and let him know how immi is.

I hope your ok, it must be really hard but sounds like ur being very grown up about it. Hope you have time to clear your head and figure out what it really is that you want x

So sorry to hear tthat but i hope the break will help sort things out Sounded by the posts before u wasent happy xx
Sending u big hugs xx

Aww, hun..sending you big huggles

Sorry Hun, hope you're ok x

Michelle

Hope you are ok hun? You made a very brave decision taking a break, I really hope that some time apart will help you both realise how much you love each other and want to be together. Never apologise for rambling I do it all the time lol, we are all here for you.

big hugs x

Sorry you are going through this sweetie, we are all here for you if you need to let it out x

Hope this isn't the end hun xxxxx

Thank you all so much for the support. It means a lot to be able to let it out here. It's hard as i don't feel I can tell many friends/family as we got married so young and so many were against it, i just feel like it will be 'i told you so'. Which probably hasn't helped the last few months as i haven't had anyone to talk to about it all so it's been eating away at me.

We are deffinitely keeping up communication. We had to go out for a meal with his family this evening and pretend everything was ok, but Matt came round after and we had a good talk which helped a bit as yesterday was just a lot of tears. We've decided he'll come round and take Immi out for a couple of hours tomorrow after work. Friday we have tickets for a musical concert/fireworks display &we've decided to still go. Then saturday i will go stay somewhere else so he can have Imogen here for the weekend. And we'll just take it from there. But we both agree we're doing this to try and save our relationship rather than end it so i deffinitely want to communicate.

Thanks again ladies for the supportxx