Right, I love my mum, but sometimes she just drives me bonkers.

On the whole she is a great mum, but as most of you know, she has done some crazy stuff (trying to cut her wrists at my wedding, and a hundred other things I could list).

I was explaining to her today that when baby is here, we will probably try to fit all guests into visiting in a day so that James isnt stuck spending his paternity leave working around other people/guests.

She announces that my nan and pap are a bit 'funny' at the minute and that they would rather see the baby at 'her' house.... WITHOUT ME THERE!!!!

Er... ok, so I am going to leave my newborn baby with my mum so they can see her. I dont think so!

Im not 100% sure if it is her putting a spin on things as she is put out that my maternity leave starts on Friday and she keeps saying how she is going to miss having Aimee.

I am sure that when she has her on Thursday for the last time (my MIL has Aimee on Fridays) she will have a total breakdown.

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oh dear, that's odd though why would she expect you to leave the baby.
stick to your guns about visitors though, it drove me mad when Ava was born you never get 2 minutes to yourself.

Thats a ridiculous thing to suggest, if theyre not happy to see bubs at your place with you, then they dont get to see her, simple as! It's a very nasty thing to say if it's not true though

she did what at your wedding??????? oh my days!!!


back to topic, as if thats gonna happen! i have only just let edith go to mil last week to give me time with alice, stick to your guns xxx

How strange dont u and your granparents get on then? Cant understand why they only wanna see baby at your mums alone thats wierd xx

I dont really get it.

I get on great with my grandparents, but according to my mum, they are getting old and miserable and dont like being around people.

But... that is just what she says.

There is no way on this earth I would let my mum anywhere near my newborn on her own!

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How strange it's almost (almost) a laughable proposition if it wasn't for her previous! How did you leave it / what did you say? Hope this week goes well - oooooo things getting close now xx

That is a strange one.

Just to say though that people don't seem as bothered when you have a second baby, so i wouldn't be too worried about being inundated with visitors

Weird, Id say she probably wants the attention of showing off new baby herself. (Dont know full story about your wedding but just thought maybe she doesnt like the shine being taken off her? I dont mean to be horrible about your mum )

I was at MILs when Caitlin was about a week old and she asked if Caitlin could go & meet the neighbours who had been asking about her/sent a gift. I said yes & before I knew it MIL was out the door without me (she'd meant on her own & Id thought she meant we both go). I was left sitting for 40 min watching her out the window go into 2-3 different houses in the street of people id never met . I was bf and so anxious as id never been apart from her for a second. If iv another i'l not make the same mistake twice. Iv learnt to be a bit more assertive with MIL. If it had been my mum id have had no problem telling her to get a grip, suppose it depends what your mum is like though.

Good luck with thur! xxx

What a weird thing to say. Stick to your guns. I dont think i could conceive of such a thing. I suspect she is feeling left out with you not needing her to have aimee and tryig to get a rise

Snoopy, you hit the nail on the head... She has to be the centre of attention.

She knows full well that I wouldn't leave the baby with her. Aimee was 10 months old before any of the grandparents had her without us being there.

If my gramdparents are funny about me being there then they wont see us. Simples x

Wohhhh thats odd!

No one can expect a mum to just let people do what they want with their newborn - if grandparents really can't be doing with other 'people', which would only be you and your OH, then they will just have to miss out on seeing your new LO - tough titty!

I do find that odd, could you ring grandparents yourself and find out why

very strange! no way would i let my baby out of my sight at first/ if your grandparents want to visit to see baby then they can but if theyre not happy to do that then unlucky!!! stick to ya guns hunx

How weird.
If she's really upset about not having Aimee on a Thursday when you start maternity leave could you still drop her off there for a couple of hours? Give you a bit of a break as well xx

snoopy my mil did that too. except she asked and I shouted NO. end of story. she still asks if she can show her off to the neighbours?

I was going to suggest that too. gives you quality time with new baby and your mum wont start acting all weird on you?

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