don't worry..I won't tho. Just been laying awake lately and thinking about my family issues. Had a weird dream last night which of course had me awake with anger. It just is unbelievable how one person, in the family can totally dictate how my(our) life is lead. My sister Laura who's lies and manipulations has caused such a huge wedge and divide that I can't even plan unless months in advance a visit to my parents cabin in the Yukon, as it may interfere with the scheduled visits that they(Laura and Sarah) may have. I recently posted my mother a FB message(she never calls unless she wants something) asking her if we would be able to come up during the kids Spring break/Easter to see meet up with them. She said that it's a long way off and we will talk about it when the time draws nearer. Brushed off. Keep in mind that these two assholes are the only grandparents my children have. There is NO ONE else. My little sister, Grace, the only one I communicate with, and I cannot help but think by having her in my life as well, is creating more of a wedge, because I am positive that anything said to her, is sent right back to the other two monsters. Eventho I made it very clear we aren't interested in hearing or talking about them. She manages to squeak in a few comments here and there about Laura's nose job and Sarah's life..to which I just play dumb. I am reliving the entire events that caused this family to melt down, and cannot accept how my parents have handled it.

I'm still hurting..so is Shayne..and our kids just don't understand any of it. It's times like these..that I miss my MIL..how loving and amazing she was to us..and to Matt. I look at my kids and think..how could anyone ignore them? I want them to feel the pain we are...I want them to hurt!

jen ..i feel in some way or some how you have to let it out other wise it will just make u unwell ..i totally sympathise with you as my family are awful and so disloyal and it only through looking at my children that i relise how awful they are and my kids or your dont deserve to be left out of anything x

I don't know whats happened with your family hun but you are a great person and you and your kids totaly deserve better! xxx

The family shit list is way too long to post, but I find I get more sensitive to issues when important days draws nears for my kids..Madisyn's birthday is close and so is Christmas. What happened on Makynlee's 1st birthday just still kills me inside as I couldn't imagine doing that to someone...especially family.

Oh honey

They dont deserve a sister or daughter as amazing as you, id be proud to call you my family. You have a lovely husband and fantastic kids who are a credit to you and im so sorry you are hurting this way.

Im glad you have this place to let it out so it doesnt fester so much and of course you always know where i am. Wish I knew what to suggest or say but i know what its like to have grandparents who cause you pain after some of the situations i have seen in my life like breaking up family fist fights at funerals and being told im fat on my grandmothers 1st visit to my first own home and eventually i decided it was less painful to make a clean break and stop trying. I get to not have the stress and my grandmother gets what she wants - a good reason to biatch about me. Your kids are sensible and well brought up and will not suffer for having this poison out their life. One day when you are grandparent yourself you can show them how its meant to be done as my mum is so proud to do.

Idont know if that makes sense or even a smidge of help but love you long time honey and just wish could hug you in person xxx

Hun

I have to agree wholeheartedly with Mario, they don't deserve an amazing daughter and sister like you. Families are strange things and their actions hurt us the most. Our family has had many fall-outs, brothers not speaking for decades, my dad and my bro not speaking for years. It annoys me though when kids are involved and the kids suffer. my nephew missed on so much time with his grandparents, thankfully now everyone is talking.

Your parents should realise how important a part they should and could be playing in your kids lives, it must be made harder by the fact the Shayne's mum was such an amazing grandparent.

You have to let your feelings out hun as it will only make you ill and no-one wants or needs that we all love you so much and you are such an amazing support to everyone. I wish i was closer hun so I could give you a great big cuddle and give your parents a good slap.

Love you lots like jelly tots

Oh Jen. Sorry you're going through this. Once the bug gets you of mulling things over, one thought leads to another leads to more ire and frustration which leads to another thought....

Have faith in comeuppance and/or karma being a biatch
Unfortunately bad relatives sometimes happen to good people

Alienated from a family that I feel so detached from. I have busted my ass..begged pleaded..apologized for wrongs that I had nothing to do with..you name it..it's been done. My parents sit on their hands when they are the very two people that could end all this now by saying enough! Noone will be allowed in our homes or property until the parties responsible can admit what went on. They know what Laura did and said..they also know what Sarah sent me...yet its allowed to continue. Why can't I find a way to make the pain end from all this. I'm not 100% innocent in the family crap, as we all biatch to each other about certain sisters being jerks..but have never run off to the other person telling them everything that was said..in order to cause dramatics. How Laura ended up twisting what came out of her gob and pinning it on me plus extra's that weren't even discussed..and have the other sister and parents believe it and shun me just blows my mind. The moment she left my house back in August..she was dialing on her cell to track down the sisters to cause problems...