Need you opinions.

Tom my 11 year old is so like my ass.

They ave been back at school 7 weeks and so far he has lost 2 school jumpers (£15 each) 2 shirts (not expensive) and today a pair of trousers (£16). Now he has been to lost property and replaced the jumpers but the shirts are know where to be found. I am giving him till the end of school tomorrow to find the trousers.

I have just made him go to tesco with his own money to buy himself some new school shirts. I feel really guilty for this now but i just cant think of any other way of making him remember his school clothes!!

He was saving up for a ps3 headset but now doesnt have enough.

Am i wrong?? Need reassurance and support xxx

i would say it's not too harsh, at his age he needs to learn responsibility for his property and the value of things

am sure in the long run he'll appreciate it!

Is he just being careless or could someone be stealing them? How the hell could he lose a pair of trousers, lol

when are they going missing? after PE or something, could anyone be taking them off him for a joke or his he being careless?

If he is just being careless I would say 100% doing the right thing, it'll teach him that money doesn't grow on trees

mara i would do the same! ashleigh loses everything and when i have bought her expensive shoes boots coats sh e ruins them or loses them but has no remorse for it at all .. but tries to blame others..so the pocket money she earns at the moment is goign towards a ew coat as i reuse to buy her one as she just didnt care where she had lost it too!!

so no your not harsh your teaching them respect

Hey, I know how you feel my 13 year old has always lost his clothes/coats. Your son is probably like mine and it's a case of "easy come, easy go"! I think you've done the right thing as these kids do need to understand the value of things and the importance of taking responsibility for their possessions.

Well done you!

If you do feel really bad about the ps head set, them make him do a few jobs to earn a bit if cash towards them.

Bloody hell, nope not too harsh at all but like K said they aret being nicked or him being bullied, i know how soft he is xxx

If hes losing them misplacing them 100% think ur doing the right thing he will now hopefully realise he has to look after his stuff x If its kids stealing them then obv its different xx

I'm not sure that kids actually steal items of uniform, do they??? I know with my son it's a case of just picking them up after pe or taking his jumper off because he's hot!

You couldn't leave anything in my school without it being stolen!

hun thats not harsh, you have to teach them responsiblity. but i'd write his name in them, in case someone is borrowing them....

rich is always coming home in someone elses clothes, so i went mad, as his shirts are white not grey... now he is much better and he always wears character socks, as his black socks disappeared alot

No he "misplaces" them after PE or football. Maybe someone has taken the trousers by accident but i doubt it in high school. He has admitted himself that he forgets to pick things up!!

Hes deffo not being bullied, we are very close and he tells me everything. Grrrr i hate the guilt of parenting!!!

It's hard being the heavy, infact heartbreaking. Remember when our parents would say - This is going to hurt us more than it hurts you? It is so true!!! Hugs hun. xxx

If he is losing them through carelessness hun then I think he should pay towards new ones. This might make him more responsible in future if he knows he will have to pay for replacements
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If they are definately just being misplaced then I htink this is the only way to teach him, if he realises he'll have to shell out for new ones then hopefully he will be more carefulo in the future x

I think you are probably doing the right thing, I just dont think I could do it lol. Im really soft and I dont think I could take my sons money.

i dont think its harsh.. like how can he lose all of them clothing lol. i thkk i would do the same to paige if she lost all of her clothes.. tha way they learn argh, if i lose it again ill have t buy itahain x

aww part of me is saying, aww thats a wee shame, mean mummy but the other half, the louder part is saying, well done! i couldnt have done that tbh. id prob end up buying the head set as a wee treat for remembering his clothing from this point till another set point. ur kid ur rules as they say x

im so soft with my lot but i like to think i would carry through with something like that with mine x x

Right i have given him half of the money back (£2.60), and i will be buying the headset for xmas. I am far too soft

yes u are

I am totally behind you in making him pay for the replacement clothes. My nephew is forever losing stuff and SIL moans constantly about it and my advice was to make him pay for it.

I also like the idea of getting him to do jobs to earn the money.

He does clean the buses inside to earn money, infact they are always doing jobs to earn money!! Its a wonder am not broke actually

lol, soft bugger!

Lol, Maras a softy! x