we were away for the weekend and coming home today we came across a bad smash ,, must have only just happened as someone was on phone to services
we were behind a lorry which just drove past the crash , we followed ,,, tbh there was nothing i could have done as i would have froze and or cried and i had my 3 children in the back so really did not want them seeing what was going on ( i had noticed 4/5 other cars had stopped though )
i spent the next hour of journey so sad and upset and guilty feeling telling my self i should have stopped ... although i really dont know why as i couldnt have helped any
, i had several scenarios going through my head
then i hit a flipping pheasant !
anyways ,,, we were about 20 mins away from crash site when the services started to go past us to the accident ! that really got me ,,,, this is a bad stretch of road well know for crashes ( the a9 , its the main road from north scotland down ) and there are about 100 miles poss more between major hospitals ,
got home and future mil was on phone , i had not heard my mobile ringing and she had heard about the crash and panicked , turns out 2 were killed we thought that may have happened as when going past we seen them
the guilt i feel for not stopping is so bad ,,, feel such a bad person ,,, would you have stopped ?
this is going to make me sound even more of a biatch but had i not have went past then i would still have been sitting there hours later as the road was closed ( possibly still is ) and the detour for me would have added hours onto my journey

no your not a bad person. If it were me and I had hannah in the back I wouldnt have stopped. id have felt the same as you though.

if you were a bad person you wouldnt have thought twice about them again.
hope your ok xxx

don't feel bad, there's nothing you could have done.
i wouldn't have stopped if i had kids in the back

People had already stopped and someone was already on the phone to emergency services, so what could you have done?

You're bound to feel down and upset as you seem the remains of a fatal accident! Imagine what the effect would be on your kids?

I really hope you're ok but don't feel guilty!

Hey I seen a dead cat in the road last year and I was devastated for days!

xx

Personally, I think that as other cars had already stopped then there was nothing you could do.

I also agree that if your kids are in the car, its not something that they need to see.

We had a bad smash outside our house when we were younger (I was about 10 and my bro was 11) and the car blew up with the bloke still in it. It really messed my brother up.

xx

No your not a bad person hun, like you said others had already stopped and someone was already on the phone to the services, so what more could you have done had you stopped. It would have been a different matter if you had been the first on the scene and not stopped.

We were driving somewhere the other month and a man had collapsed at the side of the road, but there were 3 cars that had already stopped so we just carried on going, does make you question yourself though doesn't it xx

The fact your still thinking about it shows your not a bad person, theres nothing you could have done and your kids would have been traumatised for nothing xxx

I dont thinkyou are a bad person at all. Ive stpped before now at road accidents but if i had caelyn in the car i have to think twice even though i would probably be able to actually do something (sorry i dont mean that to sound derogatory i really dont)

At the end of the day other ppl had stopped so by you stopping you would a) clog a road services need to get down b)upset the wee ones c) upset yourself in return for probably not much as if they were going to pass on sadly there is very little you could have done if you are not trained in significant 1st aid

Have a nice drink and some choccies andtry not to dwell on it.

Hugs n kisses to you and yours xxx

I saw a bad accident when i was younger saw a bloke get smashed off his moterbike and being flung across the road and we had to drive past his bodie 3days before christmas it was heartbreaking. I wouldnt have stopped if i had children in the car i was 14 but it still affected me.

Your not a bad person like everyone else said you wouldnt have given another thought about it if you were xx

oh god no of course your not bad. Like the others have said there's nothing you could have done anyway and it's not fair on the kids even if they didn't see anything you'd have been stuck there for hours.

If it was a quiet road and you were the only car passing then that's a different matter completely but it's a busy main road there were already people stopped and helping

Try not to let it get to you x

You're not a bad person. x