If I were to move before xmas with 2 kids in tow, parents not about to help look after them as away with work.... MIL says she'l help but her help is to go through my stuff & have a fag every 2 mins. and not bother with kids.... ummmmm plus its us moving in with OHs uncle but its twice size here & 1/2 the price. argh head hurts!!! can I live with another male?! even though we'd be seperate lounge areas, but be sharring kitchen and upstairs... argh I dont know what to do.

its a beautiful house middle of no where (wories me a little scary!) on a old farm loads of land, massive garden. but living with his uncle... what to do what to do?? & before xmas!!!!! WE can move in with him asap as in tomo!! but Id have to give here a months notice. just need to get out of here after the hell my landlord gives us. but dreading it, not going to be easy I can see it comming. she's going to be an utter biatch about it. feel bad on them as ts before xmas but like oh says sod them. wish I didnt think of other people & what they think sometimes!!!!! as we havnt signed a new contract here it ran out ages a go never signed another. so technically I wouldnt need to give notice... but I would give 4 weeks notice. I can see her not giving our bond back in spite us moving out. argh what to do?!

I would say go for it! The plus side is the money you could save, the down side is that its not your house and ur be living with another male...but i think thats easier than living with another female! I would prob wait till after xmas though!

Hmmm that's a tough one. Moving with no help from parents could be really difficult unless you have some friends willing to pitch in? Even if it just lugging boxes about?

As for living with someone else it depends on how you are and how they are. I know I couldn't do it as I like my privacy too much and would be forever moaning at them to be quiet in the mornings and nights.

If you do go for it then your biatch land lady will have to have a very good reason not to give your bond back. If you do go for it then take pictures of how you leave EVERYTHING so that she can't pull a fast one. Put that day's paper in the picture too so that you can prove the date xxx

Honestly Em, if it were me I wouldn't do it, when I was with my ex husband we took the decision to move in temporarily with his parents after I'd been made redundant, we had a separate lounge, kitchen, bedroom, etc but it was hell, we had no privacy at all, his mum would come in to our bedroom without knocking, we ended up putting a lock on the door, if we had an argument, everyone would hear and before you knew it the world and his wife knew about it. Also you have children which makes it worse, they're not going to understand that some rooms are his and some are yours until they're much older, and is he going to like the noise, mess and general chaos that comes with young kids?

I do agree that you need to move, but I would look for something of your own. Your landlady cannot withold your bond without a valid reason and you have legal rights if she refuses.

Obviously it's your decision though, you don't have to listen to me. no one else does

I think I'd move if I was you! More space will be lovely plus it's cheaper and you wont have to deal with your landlord anymore! It will be hard but if you'vegot to move anyway it would be best to get it out of the way x

I would do it hun. Me and Ben moved with 4 kids and no help at all, in fact we moved the fella here out and us in at the same time as he was at work and didnt have time!!!

Took us about 3 days to do the initial move and about 2 weeks to sort this house out at my own pace xx

Ive got a head ache thinking so much..... really dont know what to do.
Idealy want my own place, but right now we cant afford it & there is nowhere.

dont know wether to temp live there save money and keep an eye for else where. just to get out of here... but Im worried about living someone else, he says be seperate & hes hardly there... but like you say with kids.... argh if this house wasnt so depressing I proberly wouldnt, but as I am desperate to get out lol Ive even seriously thought about moving back in with my parents or putting a big static caravan in their field lol (idea soon passed at the thought of living in a caravan mind seriously would be bigger than here!! its that small)

I think being a woman you just want your own stamp on things dont you. what about the kitchen... I want my own stuff like kettle & tea,coffee jars and bread bin as all matches pmsl how sad!!
mind Ive lived with rob & 2 other blokes before... now that was hell cant be as bad??

mandy your ex & situation you had with him sounds way too familuar for my liking, not the 1st time I can relate to something.... bit scary!!! xx

id go for it now personally but i think im a bit biased by hating where we are just now

Em, are you eligible for any help with housing from the council? Or housing benefit? If it's only going to be temporary then maybe go for it, but set a time limit, and have a proper plan about saving money so you can move into your own place as soon as possible, hope you sort it out

If youn hate where you are now, would it not be best to move os you can save up a bit? x

We're on the list I decency put our name down as I see it's only way we're going to get a house on our wages (sad really) but there's at least a 7year wait list!! Madness

I tried getting housing Benifit, which was £6 a week pft but now changed to a bit more so no too bad. But the houses round here are ao expensive to rent & no where really rents long term as ita all holiday homes so all 6month contracts over winter. Where I can't be dealing with that. Move after 6months all the time. Plus so expensive. Will have to save some £££s and may be come up with some plan to work from home some how (been too use to being home now with girls can't leave them) but then we'l hve hb taken Off us and bet we'l be no better off! Stupid!!