My oh is a jerk!
We had a huge fight a while ago, I really thought it was over, but we got through it and he's trying to be better..but he really doesn't do himself any favours.

We had a fight over something stupid last night, we haven't been having a lot of sex lately (I still have pain, and he works until late at night, we're both exhausted etc..) and i know he's been looking at porn more. Which is fine BUT if i walk into the room naked or topless, he doesn't even notice half the time, let alone comment If i ask, how do i look? he'll look and say, fine, or sexy but he'll do it with one eye on the tv. So great, he makes effort to lok at porn girls, can't even be bothered to look at me. But he still wants to have sex with me..

Anyhoo, I was explaining just that, how i felt rubbish if he loked at porn but not me. He said everyone does it (fair enough, and i'm not saying he's weird or asking him to stop) So i jokingly said, how do you know? Do you talk to your mates about it, and he said yeah, when they meet up they talk about porn.. iam i the only one that thinks this is kind of gross? I really don't mind him looking, but the idea of a group of (quite nerdy, admittidly) guys discussing their favourite websites/girls..ew ew ew!! And if they're in a pub, how quickly does that spread to checking out other girls, or chatting them up? What a twunt. (although i did a belly laugh at the thought of my oh trying to chat someone up )

It's really put me off him. It's not the looking, it's more the fact that whe he's with his friends, they're talking about that kind of stuff, not how great their families are, or work or normal stuff. He just does/says a lot of things that don't show an awful lot of respect for my feelings and i'm finding it quite hard. Would it freak you out too??

Also, when i offered to watch porn with him, he said that was freakish and wrong.. but talking about it with his mates is not freakish?? I don't understand this guy at all!

And then, he said that he doesn't find me sexy all the time. The man is clearly blind, I mean, have you seen my arse?? *points arse at screen* It's nice!!*

(*I'm joking, but that really hurt me and my massive ego too. I'm no great looker, but I'd like to think that as he married me, he's at least atrracted to me! *sob*

omg hun he really needs to sort himself out!! how on earth can ur husband say he doesnt find u sexy all the time!! thats shocking he needs a kick up the arse
he shud find u sexy even if ur wearing a bin liner!!

and why dont he want to watch porn with u! thats perfectly normal and a great way to spice things up

i dont know what it is with men this week but they really r being dicks!!!

im not sure bout the chattin to his mates bout it i think its normal for younger guys to do this! r him n his mates immature cos to me it jst sounds like an immature thing to talk about like teenagers at school do! not grown men

Thanks hun xx

I'm sure he's a 29 year okd teenager, the things he's been coming out with lately are just ridiculous.

It's a tough one, I don't expect him to find me drop dead sexy when i'm in my dressing gown and haven't showered for 2 days, but how does he think its ok to tell me that?? Then accuse me of being insecure, and say my insecurity is my problem and i have to fix it by myself.

Grr, thats it. I'm going to rebel, walk around licking a picture of jake gyllenhall, whilst telling him that him lounging around in ripped boxer shorts with testicles spilling all over the place doesn't really do it for me

oh Nat he is a knob for saying that!

I bet he doesn't talk about it with is mates- he just said it to maybe sound better, like he knew what he was talking about lol

As for the sexy comment well - what a dick for saying it - yeh we all know we aren't always looking good but we don't bloody need to hear it do we!

Men

Bellend! Honestly Kat he is a numpty at times.

He shouldnt say things like that its just plain stupid. Im no looker but my OH says he thinks im sexy and things like that do matter. I know theres days i look like somethign that fell out a hedge and he cudnt think like that then but hes tactful enough not to mention it same as i dont when hes sat watching tv scratching his belly and im thinking OFGS QUIT IT! (And by the way nice arse but put it back on the seat hon it will make typing easier). He really doesnt do himself any favours.

And sounds like he and his mates are being really immature if all they wanna chat about is whats in this months magazine of 'tits and ass for tits and arses'.

Id def make some sort of retaliation!

marioandthestuntbubs wrote:

'tits and ass for tits and arses'.

i honestly bout peed myself when i read that! so funny

Right, this one time..OH's mate came round and brought this 'dvd'..I was like ooo, whats that..and they just openly said..'PORN!' I was like wtf?? But they seemed all casual about it, So they obviously do discuss it - what ever floats ya boat

But as for him saying he don't find you sexy all the time...*slap - slap* << Kats OH!! Thats awful My OH is always telling me am sexy and it actually grates on me lol, Yer, you find me sexy with greasy hair, spots, in my huge totally unflatering pj's with the saggy arse thing going on You clearly after getting ya leg over - it just ain't gunna work!!