My 8 year old is quite a character.
He is quite authoritive to other children. For instance, we once saw a teenager in the street throw some rubbish on the floor. Ben went up to him, hands on hips and told him that it's naughty and told him to put it in the bin. He was 5 at the time.
He has got worse since. He does not play well with other children, I honestly think they do not like him and to be honest I dont blame them! He is just so bossy.
He thinks he is an adult, spends play time with the adults and trying to join in with adult conversations.
Since he could talk people (even strangers) would say he is like a little old man.
He is very bright, on a higher reading level than my eldest son. He finds school work way too easy and because of this he becomes bored in class and starts wondering around trying to help everyone else.
His teachers words are he is her very own little teaching assistant.
He only started at this school in September but we have had 2 quite serious problems.
1st was someone was hitting another child. Ben went over to tell her (yes her!!) that was not very nice so he got pulled to the floor, kicked on the back and kicked where a few months before he had a heart operation.
When I collected him from school I only found out as saw a footprint on his shirt so went straight to the teacher and was then told.
She said the girl was being dealt with acordingly.
2nd thing was a boy told Ben not to play with another child, Ben said he wanted to. The boy told Ben he does not take no for an answer. Ben walked off to play with other boy and got beaten up for it.
Ben is year 3, year 6 boys even joined in with the hitting.
My other son got the dinnerlady who broke it up. Ben ended up with a nose bleed, back eye and bruises.
AND.........the dinnerlady did not inform any teachers of what had happened!!!!
I found out after school so next day was fuming when I went to school. The head was disgusted this has happened so was his teacher. The dinnerlady had a warning and the boys all had a talking to. I kept him off school that day as wanted to keep an eye on him so when I took his brother I spoke to teachers.
The next week the whole school had a week of bullying talk and how to treat others.
I feel not enough was done. Ben really suffered and as his teacher said just because he knows his own mind it is no reason to get a beating.
The school is supposed to be very good. We live in quite a well to do village so thought the school would be good.
Sorry its a long one but I just do not know what I should do, I do not want him to change schools again x

I saw a program about intelligent kids - they don't often mix well at normal schools as they aren't challenged enough , and more often than not when they more to a more challenging school their behaviour, and social interaction improved.

I know you don't want to change schools, but keeping him somewhere that isn't pushing him will just hold him back and frustrate him.

Have you considered talking to a an expert in child education , these people seem to be what you would find useful - most of what you have said is listed there as signs of a gifted child not being taught how they need to be [You must be registered and logged in to see this link.]

Thanks for the link, will have a look.
Before he was school age and at playgroup they noticed he was 'different' to the other children.
They suggested he saw the HV. She could not put her finger on what was
wrong, said she can out rule autism.
I blamed myself thinking I had wrapped him up in cotton wool due to him having a heart problem.
He then started school and it was then out of HV hands and down to the school.
They said he was naughty, would not
listen to what they were saying and would wonder around class when he
should be sat on carpet he would never sit still and listen like the other children.
They did say they had noticed he was very bright and they think he was finding the work too easy but they said he was at the highest level they could let him go.
We moved last year and the village school was full so while waiting they temporarily went to another school.
Straight away they let him work at the level he needed. They said there was nothing wrong with his behaviour. In fact he was one of the best behaved in class.
In the year he was there he came on so far.
Then started at the village school and its all gone wrong.
They said they will see how things go until after christmas and then see what needs to be done.
I just feel cos its a small school he will not get the help he needs x

OMG. I just did the questionaire and nearly every answer was strongly agree. I am going to take this in my hands and not leave it up to the school x

As a Mum going through the diagnosis process for autism spectrum problems with my youngest soon who is 2 years behind at school and also in year 3, who has done a huge amount of research into autism in all its forms it sounds to me like your son could have a type of high functioning aspergers (which is a form of autism) and it might be worth looking into that!

Keep working with the school as sometimes the smaller the school the better the response! Also push your doctors to get him seen. The other thing I suggest is too get in contact with the previous school where they helped him and see what sort of work and things they had in place as it sounds like they helped him and understood! If all else fails moving him back to that school sounds like it might be an option! I know you said you don't want to move schools again but if his education improves then it shouldn't be dismissed!

Hope that helps and if you need someone to talk too then give me a shout.

xxx