Thats awful, is it family?? I have this too with James parents!
James parents buy loads for Chloe (all crap) Hayden got a bag of mega blocks and MY 2 boys age 11 & 6 got a matchbox car each
my mum treats Chloe as another grandchild and spends probably as much although she only sees her 2 /3 times a year
We then got invited there yesterday as they knew my 2 boys would be with their dad, they collected Chloe we got there H opened his 1 present we weren't offered a stitch to eat (arrived lunchtime) we were then asked to take Chloe home on our way home
we said no - you collected her, you return her. Felt bad but were in my dads car as ours died and it's not on our way home
Next year I have suggested to James they come to us, at least H will be able to play with toys