Gosh Emz, she must mean a lot to you. I don't think I could do the same tbh.
If it were a good friend of mine I would support her trying to leave this sick barsteward, but to stay with him and give up her baby (I'm presuming she has) then, sorry but I couldn't even pretend to be nice to her.
I don't think you're stupid for being scared at all hun. Be very cautious, you protecting your little girl is exactly the right thing to do x