so my OH's mum had Arwyn for the day on friday..... went i went to pick her up and tea time she told me she'd given her toast and some baby biscotti....
i was silently raging, this is just typical of her just doing her own thing with Arwyn and not considering whether i'd be ok with it.
i provided all the food i wanted Arwyn to eat that day and she didn't
end up eating her tea that night so goodness knows how much they gave
her.
i told my mum about it but she said i'm being too sensitive i just feel i should be the one introducing new foods to Arwyn, not her!!

No you're not. I'd be annoyed too. If you've provided food for her to eat then that's what she should have eaten. It would be different when she's older but when she's only just being introduced to stuff that's not on imo xxx

Well luckily toast and biscotti are pretty much the most harmless thing she could have given her...but I know its more the fact that they do these things without asking!

You'd have been raging with what my MIL gave Izzy at Christmas (well just before xmas when she ad her while I worked) and I am still dealing with the consequences...frikin chocolate pennies..and even put them in a purse WTF?!

Now Izzy thinks all money is OK to eat. I am fuming to be honest that A she was feeding her chocolate anyway..and that B she gave her something and said it was money, just the most stupid thing to tell a toddler.

I definitely don't think you are being sensitive. I would have been very upset too, not particularly about the type of food but the fact that she is so young and you had given specific instructions. I think mil's just like to try and exert their power, which isn't fair! x x x

i would be the same, im quite choosy on what ava has to eat but my mums really good at giving her what I say, at least it wasn't too bad my friends baby's 7 months and her fil gave him a full bag of choccie buttons.

yeah. i'd be mad too pixel, so dont feel like you're being irrational or over-sensitive here...
you had provided food, so she should've listened
it probably wasn't done deliberately, but they should atleast ask xx

Ellie stayed my parents for an hour when she was about 6 months old. When I got back my said she seemed hungry so I gave her a Jaffa cake! Nope, he wasn't joking!

i know it could have been worse, i just feel like this is the beginning of a constant battle where she is going to do what she likes regardless of my feelings.
i like the woman normally, i don't want to end up falling out with her!!

One word of advice, put your foot down now Pixel!! My MIL was a bit of a pain to begin with, but i just tell her how it is these days x x x

I agree set it out now!

I was just like you and didnt want to rock the boat...but MIL was feeding Izzy all sorts of stuff I wasn't wanting her to have - even though I was sending packed lunches - it was coming back uneaten..so I'd ask what she ate and she'd say something like Super Noodles, or Big Soup

its a really sensitive subject to mummy si think, both mine and my oh's parents feed our kids cr*p and it bugs the life out of me!
x

My mum oftern gives callum a biscuit when were round but i dont mind too much always organic but if he was much younger and just being introduced to foods id be a little annoyed xx

I was the same with Thomas at that age but since having Hannah and being a lot more laid back this time around I do look back and have to admit to myself that I was definitely over sensitive. The way I look at it now is (not meaning to offend anyone here) that these little people are not my possessions they are little humans that I have brought into my family, as well as me they have a father and grandparents and a much wider family that love them and want the best for them. When my parents/inlaws feed my kids crap they aren't doing it out of spite or to harm them in any way they are doing it out of love and all be it misguided they are just trying to help. I have full control over my childrens diet 90% of the time so if their family feed them the odd thing that I wouldn't myself then it really isn't an issue in the grand scheme of things.

When I was a kid I used to love to visit my family because I knew there would be a few 'treats', we didn't have a lot of money as kids so holidays, new toys etc were a rarity so visiting nanna and being allowed to choose your own chocie bickie from the tin was a source of major excitement to us and I want my children to have that too.

I'm not saying you are being over sensitive hun coz at the end of the day she is your child and what you says goes but from my own experience no matter what you say or how many times you say no grandparents will always do what they want so rather than stress about it and cause tension just ask yourself did it do her any real harm? If not then I wouldn't worry about it. By all means make your point but don't be surprised if you are completely ignored in the long run

xx

^^^ yup I agree dont get too stressed about it

Both my mum and MIL give Izzy milky tea....something I said NEVER would I do...but tbh I have got to the point where with some things I am talking to myself...and my mum always feeds her good stuff so overall its fine

i don't mind if she gets the odd treat at her grandparents, i know it's going to happen. i'm mostly annoyed that we've only just started weaning so she shouldn't be the one introducing new foods to her.
she's already made the comment "nana's house, nana's rules" so i suppose i'm already on edge about what she might do when i'm not there

I agree with Debs about being more laid back second time round, but i do think it is more a matter of mil having respect for your ways of doing things, even if it is her house.

With Imogen (who is now 3) i do let her have her fair share of treats and don't really ask what grandparents give her when i'm not there, but if i had specifically asked for something to be given/or not then i expect her to have enough respect for me to do as i have asked.

x x x

Quote :

nana's house, nana's rules

f*ck off! my baby my rules!!!