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jenshayne
Age : 54 Join date : 2010-08-17 Location : Canuckville Posts : 3290
| Subject: Your self worth! Sun Aug 29, 2010 7:08 am | |
| Hiya ladies! Just noticed a few posts recently about how crappy some of your OH's are making you feel and I just want to send some words of encouragement your way. Being a marriage Vet (21 years) I can assure you all, even being married to a pretty decent guy most of the time, relationships are ever evolving and HARD WORK! We as wives and mothers DO lose ourselves in the process, and at the end of the day, we want to feel supported, loved, and respected by our partners. Where we fail, is we believe that men can feel and sense this without being told because of all people in our lives..you'd think they would know us best of all. They don't. Even the "good guys" can be blind on occasion. Men are creatures of habit, and get comfortable...the occasional kick up the backside(jk'ing) can resolve most issues. I have noticed on some of the posts that there are obvious relationship deal breakers...neglect, emotional abandonment, some have addiction issues with either alcohol/drugs/porn, and some have a sense of entitlement with constant partying and hanging out with the boys round the clock. I left out physical abuse as I would hope no one would stand for that! While everyone deserves to get out and have a good time once in awhile..when it starts to affect you, your kids and your day to day life...it's time to step back and reevaluate what you need. I'm not talking about day to day marital issues..those can be overcome. This is where your self worth comes into it. Do you even remember what that is? That feeling that you are important and special..when you looked in the mirror once upon a time and said "Wowza..you are gorgeous!" That feeling of self pride..independence..where you actually felt ALIVE! The time in your life when someone pissed you off and you could easily tell them to go piss up a rope? LOL...This is the key to making you important again.....YOU MATTER! YOU teach ppl how to treat you! If you are constantly bending over backwards..offering up yourself like lambs to the sacrifice...without being noticed or thanked..or even touched with a tender hand...you start to lose even more of who you were. It's a never ending downward spiral. Would any of us put up with a stranger treating us this way? NO! Do not allow anyone to walk on you..make u feel worthless..or empty inside! See yourselves for the true gorgeous beings you are! Your OH's did once..and they are capable of seeing it again...if not..life is waaay too short to stay with someone who wipes their shoes on your backside. Love yourselves..respect yourselves! Ok..coming down off the |
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tigger
Age : 46 Join date : 2010-08-16 Location : UK Posts : 1122
| Subject: Re: Your self worth! Sun Aug 29, 2010 7:12 am | |
| Aww Jen what an amazing, though provoking post and you are so right.xxx |
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Zee
Age : 43 Join date : 2010-08-18 Location : UK Posts : 2968
About Me! My Name: Zee Status: Mummy Number of Children: 1
| Subject: Re: Your self worth! Sun Aug 29, 2010 7:15 am | |
| Lmao..Very wise words Jen Very wise words indeed But to be honest..I have always said.."omg, you are one seriously sexy lady" when I pass the mirror each day |
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*Meg*
Age : 46 Join date : 2010-08-19 Location : South Wales Posts : 5152
About Me! My Name: Leah Status: Mummy Number of Children: 1
| Subject: Re: Your self worth! Sun Aug 29, 2010 7:15 am | |
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LisaGandAmelia
Join date : 2010-08-17 Location : Cheshire Posts : 3186
About Me! My Name: Lisa Status: Mummy Number of Children: 1
| Subject: Re: Your self worth! Sun Aug 29, 2010 7:16 am | |
| Aww Jen, I loves you! xxx |
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jenshayne
Age : 54 Join date : 2010-08-17 Location : Canuckville Posts : 3290
| Subject: Re: Your self worth! Sun Aug 29, 2010 7:19 am | |
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Mario
Join date : 2010-08-16 Posts : 6252
| Subject: Re: Your self worth! Sun Aug 29, 2010 7:22 am | |
| Oh Jen I do love you. You are always there for the ladies of this forum and we all thank you for that too. You are very right and hopefully our collective other halves will sort their acts out before a canadian shortarse goes postal on their arses xxx |
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*Meg*
Age : 46 Join date : 2010-08-19 Location : South Wales Posts : 5152
About Me! My Name: Leah Status: Mummy Number of Children: 1
| Subject: Re: Your self worth! Sun Aug 29, 2010 7:24 am | |
| PMSL Mario "Canadian short-arse" |
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marie
Age : 38 Join date : 2010-08-18 Location : Kent Posts : 858
| Subject: Re: Your self worth! Sun Aug 29, 2010 7:25 am | |
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jenshayne
Age : 54 Join date : 2010-08-17 Location : Canuckville Posts : 3290
| Subject: Re: Your self worth! Sun Aug 29, 2010 7:29 am | |
| - marioandthestuntbubs wrote:
- Oh Jen I do love you. You are always there for the ladies of this forum and we all thank you for that too. You are very right and hopefully our collective other halves will sort their acts out before a canadian shortarse goes postal on their arses xxx
LMAO!! I have spent enough time with a lot of you girls..and by GOD..you are quite fabulous! I ain't just saying that! Everyone is allowed to vent about their crappy OH's and the day to day mini crisis's! I am more concerned with the gals that are putting up with stuff that shouldn't be going on! I would rather live in a cave, buck naked... in the middle of nowhere ...alone...than have a partner that takes the piss on me daily! xxx |
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jenshayne
Age : 54 Join date : 2010-08-17 Location : Canuckville Posts : 3290
| Subject: Re: Your self worth! Sun Aug 29, 2010 7:30 am | |
| Hey..Google-Wolverines! They are tiny..but can bring down a bear! |
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Kinkyangel
Age : 46 Join date : 2010-08-16 Location : Leicester Posts : 1331
About Me! My Name: Clare Status: Mummy Number of Children: 3
| Subject: Re: Your self worth! Sun Aug 29, 2010 7:36 am | |
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DonnaAdmin
Age : 46 Join date : 2010-08-17 Location : Wakefield Posts : 3100
About Me! My Name: Donna Status: Mummy Number of Children: 0
| Subject: Re: Your self worth! Sun Aug 29, 2010 7:44 am | |
| Jen i love you my Canadian sista xxxx |
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jenshayne
Age : 54 Join date : 2010-08-17 Location : Canuckville Posts : 3290
| Subject: Re: Your self worth! Sun Aug 29, 2010 7:49 am | |
| I love you guys too..you are like my extended family..cept..I actually like you more than my family! |
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~ Katie ~
Age : 36 Join date : 2010-08-17 Location : Manchester Posts : 1124
About Me! My Name: Katie Status: Mummy Number of Children: 3
| Subject: Re: Your self worth! Sun Aug 29, 2010 8:27 am | |
| jen u fab x |
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pinkyd
Join date : 2010-08-16 Location : durham Posts : 3931
| Subject: Re: Your self worth! Sun Aug 29, 2010 8:42 am | |
| lovely post jen, im a veteran of 20 years next year only 6 years of marriage though , i feel lucky to have met my soulmate but youre completely right you have to believe in yourself. x |
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LisaAdmin
Age : 44 Join date : 2010-08-15 Location : Shropshire Posts : 8964
About Me! My Name: Lisa Status: Mummy Number of Children: 1
| Subject: Re: Your self worth! Sun Aug 29, 2010 9:35 am | |
| What a great post Jen! You are totally right!
x |
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Kell
Age : 41 Join date : 2010-08-18 Location : * Posts : 3652
About Me! My Name: Kelly Status: Mummy Number of Children: 2
| Subject: Re: Your self worth! Sun Aug 29, 2010 12:27 pm | |
| Xx I am trying to find that self worth! |
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Mrs Cruise & Dee
Age : 43 Join date : 2010-08-15 Location : dreamland ! Posts : 5016
About Me! My Name: Status: Mummy Number of Children: 3
| Subject: Re: Your self worth! Sun Aug 29, 2010 8:03 pm | |
| awwww jen ,,, thats lovely ! is it any wonder every1 luffs you !!! but on the other side of this i think i should maybe thank OH a little more than i do x x x |
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hopadom
Join date : 2010-08-16 Location : Suffolk, UK Posts : 390
| Subject: Re: Your self worth! Mon Aug 30, 2010 6:58 am | |
| Jen I'd just like to thank you too for that fantastic post. You are so right! x x x |
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VickieAndSophie
Age : 45 Join date : 2010-08-30 Location : County Durham Posts : 268
| Subject: Re: Your self worth! Mon Aug 30, 2010 7:53 pm | |
| Im just about to wash the footprints off, look in the mirror and put some lippy on XxXxx |
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kab
Join date : 2010-08-19 Posts : 3642
About Me! My Name: Status: Number of Children:
| Subject: Re: Your self worth! Tue Aug 31, 2010 6:38 am | |
| Aww Jen thats so sweet. I've never felt that way about myself and dont understand how my OH loves me in my looks way.
But thats such a lovely pick up |
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GuestGuest
| Subject: Re: Your self worth! Tue Aug 31, 2010 6:45 am | |
| Beautiful Jen |
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emmaXx
Age : 43 Join date : 2010-08-16 Location : southampton Posts : 1280
| Subject: Re: Your self worth! Tue Aug 31, 2010 7:34 am | |
| jen can i have your mobile number ..lol i need u to tell me this daily .. i iwish i could feel amazin and ALIVE ! |
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