Hi ladies

Another moan i'm afraid. Yesterday he decided to take the day off work for god knows what reason and i ended up snipping at him all day. He constantly pestered me for sex and generally got in my way.

He decided to tidy up his tools that had been sitting at the top of the stairs for at least 6 months at long bloody last. I actually got him to put the stair gate up after 4 weeks of moaning and Mia falling and putting her teeth through her bottom lip. He filled the sink and left ALL the dishes in it (he didn't do any dishes). Then he tidied up HIS mess in the hall and kitchen which consisted of mostly tools and DIY stuff.

He made his own dinner and when it was in the oven my chinese came. Mia was playing on the sofa and i didn't want to leave her there alone so i asked him to dish it up for me. He said "no" (i'm the one who always dishes up the takeaways when we get them). I left Mia in the living room and went to get my dinner. He had the cheek to turn around and say to me "do i have to do everything every time that i'm off?" I told him that he didn't DO everything and that he didn't DO very much. So i went and got my dinner and sat down while he pottered about in the kitchen doing who knows what. It came to 7 and Mia's bedtime. I said to him "daddy it's baby's bedtime" He said "so?????". I had to leave my dinner and put Mia to bed.

I got so irate that when i finished my dinner i said to him i was going up the stairs to read my book. He looked at me with such anger and irritation that if looks could kill i'd be dead. I basically left him downstairs. He slept there all night and came up in the morning for sex (which i never gave him). He then moaned that he had no ironed shirts for work (i've purposely not ironed anything for his work for 2 weeks) he hasn't picked an iron up either. Instead he's using every shirt he has in the wardrobe including the ones he uses to go out for nights out.

I mean OMG FFS how can he possibly think he does everything??????? I leave him to Mia's care on the weekend cause i think he should spend time with her as he doesn't see her during the week at all cause he leaves early and gets home after she's gone to bed. I think it's fair as i do the lions share of her care. He should be doing a bit in the house as well seen as he makes the most mess and leaves the most washing.

God i'm so angry at him right now.

Sorry for the rant

Dee
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i think a few of us know how much u are better off without him..... u dont have to stay because u have a kid and want to do the right thing. she gets weekends with him, even thats moaned about. so what will be the difference? unhappy mummy/household = unhappy baby

u deserve the chance to be with some one who actually appreciates u for who you are, without trying to mould u into summat ur not. forget what he said bout himself, he is all full of him him him. u never ever have ur needs fulfilled, its always his way or no way, his needs all the time, his feelings and u always just have to accept it or u get ignored for days on end. its always u who has to submit, sacrifice, give something up. u gave up ur home, job, life for him. if thats not good enuff, nothing ever will be

being with a man cause he is a good guy wont cut it forever. u are a person with feelings and needs. u have wants in ur life and goals... u need to think, are u gonna achieve/have them with him, can u work together?

being a 2 parent family isnt the be all and end all. u know u did it for years alone and look at what u achieved.

personally, he needs a good flipping shake and u should tell his mother to have a go at him, tell her just how close u been to walking out. u know what her reaction would be. get her phone number, have a chat with her. mibi she will kick him into shape!! cause he sure aint listening to u xx

Cant say it any better hun, you deserve better xxx

You're right and i love the fact that you can give me a huge kick up the a*se when i need it. I think i have a right to be taken care of like i do for him. He is selfish and lazy. Luv ya babe x

u know i just wanna c u happy ! ur very ambitious and have a heck of a lot to offer. id hate to see that wasted and then in 20 yr we are having the convo.... well i wonder what if.

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I know you do. I text you x

I agree with everything Laura said, he doesn't deserve you x

Thank you girlies. It's nice to know that you all luv me x

I agree with Laura. You and Mia deserve so much better xxxxxxx
We are always here for you xxxx
You are very lucky to have an amazing friend like Laura, I have seen all the fab advice that she gives you

aw em u have a girl crush pmsl x

Aw i agree with laura, you deserve so much better x

yup along with what laura said.. you know what i think about the whole thing so i am not going to add on here. but yea xx

Get rid of him and be happy, think about yourself for once xx

thank you ladies. You've cheered me up. x

How's things today dee?
I really hope you sort things out, after all the begging etc he's just being even more of an arse!
It's easy for us to say get rid you'll be better off! Which you probably wil!
But you have to get to that point in your own head!

Hope you and Mia are good xx

you def dont deserve it hun

hugs xx

kell - not to bad today but not brilliant

He claimed he forgot he said that. Yeah right. I'm slowly coming to make my decision but it's still a fight.

Dee
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when ur ready u will know ur self. end of the day, only u know what goes on behind closed doors and only u know whats in ur own head. x