Would you let him push u before u walk out?

What would be your breaking point and what would make you finally snap?

Dee
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I don't know if I could answer it really, I think it depends on the situation?

Has you oh been an arse again?

i have a mouth on me so i think he would have to lift his hand to me , be completely out of order towards the kids or cheat on me

i strongly believe that if you are seriously considering leaving a relationship, it's time to go - at least temporarily, because you can never get a clear picture of what you want or need when you are still in the situation

yeah kell. I text him to say i'm gettin sick of bein pressurised into sex and he hasn't even came so close as to get a cuddle in 3 days. We're barely talkin x

I think this just adds to the fire ATM, you guys just seem to be so angry at each other all the time, IMO a break is definatly called for. Not just a couple of days either, sounds like you both really need to see life without eachother and then make your decision?

I know it's very difficult to accept but I really think you guys will end up hating each other if this continues, and for mia's sake neither of you want that! x

i i completely agree with mari

now please dont think im having a go or complaining at you ok but in all honesty your OH posts have been coming thick and fast ,,, sometimes i just want to pick you up and scream at you to leave him ( easy for me to say i know )

hugs hun ,,,,, relationships are not easy but when you are made to feel as shitty as you do then he obviously does not care enough about you /your relationship
huge hugs hun !! x x x

No man is worth your tears, and the one who is, won't make you
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it's hard to finally decide. I'm thinkin about Mia too. I know i'v been really moanin but i honestly don't have that many people to confide in x

You can moan and rant we don't mind! We can just see how much he's hurting you. Looking in on Someones relationship and giving advise on it is easy but in all honesty we don't love this guy so are literally only thinking of you and Mia, we have no loyaltys to him in the slightest!

Rather you sort things now when Mia is young than when she old enough to understand and be very upset x

hunny ,, i honstly would not say you are moaning ,,, you are confiding in us about your problems and thats what we are here for

i am just shitty at wording things x x

Dee

I agree with the others. You need a break.

I don't tollerate any crap and have ended relationships over a lot less than you put up with from him (Im not saying I'm right it's just the way I am).

You have us if you need to talk anyway.

Sending hugs xx

Oh hun, he's treating you like crap isn't he! What a dick! What do you think about taking a break? x

he wouldn't agree and i'v got nowhere to go.

It just seems like a replay of my oldest and her dad. We split when she was 16mths. Why can't i find a guy who loves me for who i am and accepts my various quirks. I'm not lookin for fairytale or things of myth. I just want to be loved without them wantin to change or control me in one form or another. X

Do you have family around that could help? I don't mean around as in close but as in you could stay with them?
Me and tommy stayed with my dad for about a year after I split from his dad. Managed to sort a few things out while I was there and actually living with him was pretty good.

You just need a stepping stone until you can sort things for you and Mia.

From your other posts about your OH i think i would have left a long time ago. But then again, i'm the type of person that can walk way too easily, if i'm not 110% happy then i'm off.

In regards to Mia, she wants/needs a happy mummy, even if that means that her parents aren't together.

I think a break is just what you need to clear your head, and for him to realise what he's missing so he can decide he needs to change. Actions speak louder than words and this might give them the mahoosive kick up the butt he desperately needs.

Hope your ok hun!x

I am not in a position to give relationship advice atm considering the state of mine but just wanted to give you hugs and let you know your not alone!!

Xx

I think that everybody has a different breaking point, so its a hard one to answer.

I would be off in a shot if my OH cheated on me or raised a hand to me.

I can have a right mouth on me if we argue, so can give as good as I get (and then some!).

I am the type of person who can put up with loads of crap and then one day decide that I dont like how loud they chew their food and then its over, caput.

x

lol laura

no i don't have family to stay with. Their houses are too small and there's no room. Would be nice to have a week apart to cool off (especially on his part). I could bring mia up on my own. I've done it before and am perfectly able. I guess i just need to make a final decision. Atm i'm flittin back and forward like a yoyo x

It sounds like you are putting a lot of pressure on yourself to make a final decision. Unfortunately, its never that simple and that is probably causing you more stress by thinking you need to.

You dont seem 100% ready to make a decision, so dont. Ride the storm and let it all play out, you will come to a conclusion eventually.

Is there nowhere he can go for a few days? It would be much easier for him to take a break away, than you, as you have Mia to think about.

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No he hasn't as he isn't speaking to his friends x

how long are u gonna put ur self thru this

i agree with laura.. you need to sort this out.. even if you do move out for a bit and see how it goes.. he has made you soo grumpy and unhappy..

i think if you two broke up for a bit it should show you if its worth going throu.. if he doesnt keep in contact n what not then you know he isnt worth it. i know you love him and i know its hard for you.. but as i was saying to you last night. and hae been saying for months to you. you cant go on like this. x