that's all really! it seems like everyone is splitting up/having a break/at the end of their tether just now. maybe it's the post-valentines aftermath??? or the phase of the moon!!??? i wonder if it's banda!!! there seems to be loads of people who are really unhappy just now, i hope it passes, its sad!

It does sadly seem like in doesnt it since xmas.

I think it's because having a baby can put an enormous strain on a relationship and many of the Banda babies are a similar age so that strain is starting to show at roughly the same time.

It's not the babies causing the problems but the fact that a lot of us have had enough of being taken for granted by OH's.

The other factor could be our ages. Dave and I have effectively grown appart and have different priorities now to when we met 5 years ago x

yes i agree with lisa...me and ex as i reaslised when we were on holiday have nothing in common anymore, and if i hadnt found them messages im sure we have split anyway sooner or later i just didnt see it at the time...he wants to live his life as someone with no commitments, and he bloody does that but now im over the initial shock of things, he can do what the bloody hell he wants cos i couldnt give a rats ass anymore tbh xx

I was thinking the same funny enough. argree with lisa though, it must be the age they all are and we've decided enough is enough.

lock them all up together I say sorry had to put that emotion in couldnt find a relivent one, hadnt seen that one before!!

We hadn't grown apart, were very happy and things were great. Or so I thought. Believe me I don't want any of this at all, nothing in my life is in my control and if I could turn the clock back I would, although I don't think it would make much difference in my circumstances.
It's deffo not Banda, think this site has kept us sane!!
2011 is the year for bastards evidently!!!

We arent splitting up *fingers crissed*

i hope we are not splitting up either!!

I think as LisaG said people change over time, I was about 30 when i split up with my ex who i had been with for a long time and we were different people then to when we first met.

Also when you have a baby i think your expectations of your partner are different, you also have a lot less time to do things which i think makes you more aware of selfish man behaviour!!

i did notice it seemed to be a lot of the ladies with almost 2 year olds, it is very sad!

but my OH is stuck with me!

We're not splitting up - we're getting married

xx

It saddens me to see so many people splitting up
I'm so glad that Dan and I are doing ok xxx

Me and Rob were very close to it a few times before Xmas, but since then we have been getting on great!! Love him to bits... It's sad that so many others are though, I feel gutted when I read the posts xx

it does feel that way, but i think if you actually did a poll it would be majoirtiy of us arehappy with our partners.

i feel so sorry for the ladies who dont appear in contorl of the situation they are in and appear to be a passenger on their life journey at the moment, for no fault of their own its just their circumstances.

i also feel sorry for those who have just grown apart from their partners, its somehting you dont think about when your planning a future.

i think all of us could have a moan about something the oh done on occasion, but i also know that russ for def could moan about me sometimes too.

but i'm hear to listen and give advice when i can

hugs and kisses to all xxx

At least BANDA will never break up

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sorry had to put that emotion in couldnt find a relivent one, hadnt seen that one before!!

brightened the mood a bit! haha

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At least BANDA will never break up

awww emz that's so cute

well, me and oh seem ok! hopefully when elijah hits 2 we will still be i wonder if it's to do with babies reaching 2 and mummies thinking about number 2 (or beyond) has something to do with it

everyone seems so stressed just now! oh well, everything has these phases i hope everyones alright

it does seem that way , feel so sorry for all the lovely ladies on here in that position but im sure they'll move on to better things.

I have no plans on splitting up, we're still very loved up, then again it'll be 20 years together in May might get the seven year itch late!

OK I'm going to be honest and tell you that only a few weeks ago we were very close to splitting up, I think the combination of preggo hormones and the stress of having another baby nearly took it's toll. We've been together 13 years, married for nearly 6 and a half (as you can see) have very rarely fought in the whole of our relationship but it got really bad

Luckily we've pulled through (so far) and are happy again, abviously the stress is still there with having Dexter, and the worry of how Libby will take to him etc. etc. but we are trying hard to make it work.

Huge hugs to those that are going through it though xxx

Aww Susan I hope you two keep going strong, sorry to hear you were having probs

Me. And dan split up after 3 children ! All different ages ! We been togther 13 years and married 6 years this year but i know the reason we split was because he become soo lazy when it come to our relationship and no respect fot me at all ! We deffinitly are different people to when we met at i was only 17 and now nearing 30 and i know me and my kids deserve better than havin a miserable git around ! He had relised what he has lost though ! But im loving my freedom ! But i do miss the companionship and comfort of him always being there !! Its scary starting again x

Does seem that way at the moment xx

Big Huggs to all the ladies going through breakups. Me and Dale are here for the long run. We had a rocky patch 3 years ago but was sorted out. I'm so happy with him x

Im also sending big hugs to all the ladies going through a break up.

I would like to think Me and Matt are as strong as ever, we are both as happy as can be and can't wait to begin our new journey as a little family with Lissie Bou.

I do worry about the strain that having a baby will put on our relationship though xx

OH and I went through a bad patch last year. But we got through it, a lot of talking and compromise on both sides and we got through it. at the moment and since before Christmas we've been very happy.

we've been together since i was 16 and thats 9 years now. we have both changed and grown but we've been through so much together and got through it.

but I agree with what has been said also around the same point as everyone else, being together a long time, a demanding baby/toddler money worries etc all we did was argue.

i'm sending you all hugs that are having to go through this

Up until the 10th jan this year my thoughts on our relationship were pretty much like everyones, we were in it for the long haul, we had made long term plans for the future, we were in love etc but then wham something happened and blew my worlds to pieces.

Am not trying to put a downer on everyone elses relationships what am trying to say is you just don't know what's round the corner, and you think you know someone inside out and you find you just don't know them at all! Sometimes it's not as simple as growing apart or having a baby or even an affair.

its so sad. i get so worried that this is going to happen to us but were going stronger than ever. 2 yr wedding anniversary coming up this year and been togeter for 8 years. we were best friends then and are still best friends now. i wud say having alfie has definately put a strain on our relationship as sometimes you get so caught up in being a mammy and daddy you forget that you are also a husband or a wife. i think weve deffo started making an obvious effort to spend more time together. we also talk alot too and also have arguments which i think is normal as it lets off a bit steam. we never let things build up so much it exploed and most of the time we spend together is spent laughing which i think is really important.

it does worry me tho because all of you ladies seemed so happy and its obvious that it cud happen to anyone really