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xemplus2x
Age : 39 Join date : 2010-08-31 Location : wales Posts : 1731
About Me! My Name: Emma Status: Mummy Number of Children: 2
| Subject: Iv just been accused Wed Dec 08, 2010 4:09 am | |
| Of 1 not feeding Hollie!!! And 2 being around people who smoke!!! I'm so upset just had hv (who hasn't been to see us for 3weeeks!! She never turned up last few weeks) just weighed Hollie she's only put on few oz in 3weeks. She now still only weighs 9lb 4oz (which thinking about it she's put on 7lbs! But on her chart it's flat line. So her exactwords were 'well you've got to think about your daughter. When she's hungry feed her ! Don't skip feeds! I'm sure we had this problem with lillie !!' WTF?!?! 1 no we never had this problem before lillie was a hunger monster & we had no probs what so ever! & 2 what? I feed every 3hours!! Iv never missed a feed, how can you anyway? If she's crying does she think I ignore her??? What then went to say ' know Xmas is coming &your busy but its important you feed he' I was so shocked I didn't know what go say. I feed her Every 3 hours at night it's constant from 8-11 I dot move! I feel like a total failure bf!!! So upset more that she thinks I starve me kids !! Then went to say Lillies coughing been to Drs as she's so poorly. She then went to say 'well you must be around people who smoke!' what??? No!!! She's got a cold & cough!! It's fricking -10 past night winter people get colds & coughs!! I'm so upset. So upset she thinks that of me!! Poor Hollie I Just it good enough for her it feels after she said all that she saw I was gobsmacked and she got up and left didn't say bye!! What?!?! I use to like her!! Rob said I should report her or I should have said something but was shocked. |
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LisaAdmin
Age : 44 Join date : 2010-08-15 Location : Shropshire Posts : 8964
About Me! My Name: Lisa Status: Mummy Number of Children: 1
| Subject: Re: Iv just been accused Wed Dec 08, 2010 4:12 am | |
| Yes you should report her, what a cow! What the hell does she think you just ignore your baby and feed when you feel like it!? Cheeky cow! I would have been fuming and told her to get out of my house for being so presumptuous and rude! |
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J1
Age : 46 Join date : 2010-08-16 Location : England Posts : 2346
| Subject: Re: Iv just been accused Wed Dec 08, 2010 4:20 am | |
| what a biatch,
you def need to report her, your doing brilliantly well with th BF hunxx |
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pixel
Join date : 2010-09-07 Posts : 2006
About Me! My Name: Status: Mummy Number of Children: 0
| Subject: Re: Iv just been accused Wed Dec 08, 2010 4:22 am | |
| that's bloody awful!! definitely report her, that's just not on! |
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DonnaAdmin
Age : 46 Join date : 2010-08-17 Location : Wakefield Posts : 3100
About Me! My Name: Donna Status: Mummy Number of Children: 0
| Subject: Re: Iv just been accused Wed Dec 08, 2010 4:30 am | |
| Ahhh tell her to feck off. Health visitors have a knack of listening to what you say but not actually hearing the words in the right order hence talking bollocks back to you. You doing a fantastic job hun keep it up xxx |
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CarlaAndCallum
Age : 37 Join date : 2010-08-17 Location : Essex Posts : 4673
About Me! My Name: Carla Status: Mummy Number of Children: 1
| Subject: Re: Iv just been accused Wed Dec 08, 2010 4:31 am | |
| Thats disgusting defo report her rude biatch! I cant believe she said those things to you x Your doing brillantly dont let that silly cow make you feel differently xx |
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emmaXx
Age : 43 Join date : 2010-08-16 Location : southampton Posts : 1280
| Subject: Re: Iv just been accused Wed Dec 08, 2010 4:42 am | |
| aaw em wat a biatch!! deffo report her and refuse to see her again and demand a different one .. or say you dont want to see a hv again if thry are going to be rudE and disrepectful xxx hugs hunny x |
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snoopy21
Join date : 2010-08-20 Posts : 5101
About Me! My Name: Status: Mummy Number of Children: 1
| Subject: Re: Iv just been accused Wed Dec 08, 2010 4:51 am | |
| Clearly you are feeding her- she's gained weight!!! You are doing a fab job ! BF is so hard, your HV should be doing everything to encourage you. She sounds shit at her job because she has basically just put doubt in your head about how well you are feeding, her goal should be to support you. I would def report her. Of course kids get sick in winter. She sounds like a total knob imo! Please remember what a great mum you are to your girls! |
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Laura
Age : 44 Join date : 2010-08-16 Location : Northampton Posts : 6084
| Subject: Re: Iv just been accused Wed Dec 08, 2010 4:57 am | |
| Oh my god, what a biatch! I really wouldnt let her come back hun, and you really should report her. I had ours out today for the first time since having Lily and she was lovely. You deserve much better than that, dont put up with it xx |
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xemplus2x
Age : 39 Join date : 2010-08-31 Location : wales Posts : 1731
About Me! My Name: Emma Status: Mummy Number of Children: 2
| Subject: Re: Iv just been accused Wed Dec 08, 2010 5:07 am | |
| I'm on my phone so sorry doesn't make much sense dam predictive txt & my screen still smashed can't really see lol I know she's bang out of order & worst thing is she had a student nurse with her who happens to be a friend (not close close but know her well enough) & she's my landlords daughter. Who live next door. I just think bey she's telling them I don't feed her. Mind know she shouldn't confidential & all but I'm getting paranoid! Feel like going next door (she's there now) & asking her what she thought about what she just said. Bit don't want to make her feel awkward torn between work & me. Argh like rob says need to let it go, can see hollies well & plenty of covering she's far from skin & bones lol but just feel now my milks not good enough. Seeing as hols my last if oh has his way, I want to hang on to bf as long as I can. Stupid really hols health cones 1st but don't want to give this up so soon Sorry for the moan thanks ladies xxx |
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GraceBean&Pip
Join date : 2010-08-20 Location : Posts : 1566
| Subject: Re: Iv just been accused Wed Dec 08, 2010 5:28 am | |
| So mad for you - deff complain: in writing and ask for a full reply - she could be making every mum feel like this in her care, even worse when BFing as it is so intimate and personal to you (Lord knows you don't need any help with the doubting thoughts of is it enough / substantial / etc.) and again even worse if she does it to 1st time mums who know no different and are that bit more vulnerable! - she could be causing a rash of pnd and mums swapping to formula for no reason other than peer pressure! You know your mummy instincts and they are rarely wrong, one of the good things to come out out of labour and birth I like to think Please take care and while ignoring her also make sure she is held accountable - for making you feel inferior and especially in front of a very easily influenced student who will learn that her was of doing things is the 'norm'. Big hugs now I'm away for my dinner xx |
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*ShevAndLissieLou*
Age : 36 Join date : 2010-08-31 Location : North Yorkshire Posts : 1771
About Me! My Name: Status: Mummy Number of Children: 1
| Subject: Re: Iv just been accused Wed Dec 08, 2010 5:32 am | |
| Oh my goodness hun, you definately need to report her. How rude! I would have pushed her out of the door too! Like snoopy said obviously you are feeding her as she has gained weight and you are doing a brilliant job BF'ing......so the HV should go and stick her opinion elsewhere! Dont let her get you down hun, we can all see what a good Mummy you are xx |
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stephandhannah
Age : 38 Join date : 2010-08-19 Location : Glasgow Posts : 1615
| Subject: Re: Iv just been accused Wed Dec 08, 2010 5:35 am | |
| grace is right. if someone had said that to me when hannah was a baby It would have tipped me over the edge. I was a nervous wreck. and I consider myself quite a strong person.
your bf every 3 hours, with a toddler to care for on top of a new baby and your baby is gaining weight. your doing nothing wrong. thats disgusting! I cant believe shes said this to you
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kenty
Age : 39 Join date : 2010-08-24 Location : Leeds Posts : 2260
| Subject: Re: Iv just been accused Wed Dec 08, 2010 5:56 am | |
| i would be round at the surgery kicking up a royal stink about her, that is absolutely disgusting!!! they're supposed to be there to help and support, not make you feel like a sh*t mum and accuse you of neglect |
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tigger
Age : 46 Join date : 2010-08-16 Location : UK Posts : 1122
| Subject: Re: Iv just been accused Wed Dec 08, 2010 6:00 am | |
| What a cheeky cow. I would report her hun. I have no doubt that you are a great mum. How can people accuse good parents of stuff like this and kids like baby p slip through the net. The system is all wrong if you ask me
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Zee
Age : 43 Join date : 2010-08-18 Location : UK Posts : 2968
About Me! My Name: Zee Status: Mummy Number of Children: 1
| Subject: Re: Iv just been accused Wed Dec 08, 2010 8:07 am | |
| I agree with all the others..I'd mention it to the surgery. Its out of order that she should say that, and she clearly needs some 'people skills' training Tbh, it also sounds like she was maybe showing off or asserting her authority as she had a trainee with her. Its not on. Em, you are doing fabulous, and i'm sure your lil' girl is thriving. You just do what you feels best for you and your girls, feck everyone else. |
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olliesmammy
Age : 34 Join date : 2010-09-13 Location : Wales Posts : 4970
| Subject: Re: Iv just been accused Wed Dec 08, 2010 8:18 am | |
| What a biatch, theres no need to be rude! She's putting on weight just fine, breast fed babies put on weight slower anyway and the chart they use is completely inaccurate for breasted babies x |
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tattyT
Age : 48 Join date : 2010-08-29 Location : Nottingham Posts : 1505
About Me! My Name: tattyT Status: Mummy Number of Children: 3
| Subject: Re: Iv just been accused Wed Dec 08, 2010 8:29 am | |
| i completely agree with all that has been said hun it sounds like she is doin just fine and mayb its just a mardy HV who didnt get any last night Deffo report her to the surgery at least and if u get no joy there go to the medical directorate (sp) |
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gemz
Age : 104 Join date : 2010-08-16 Location : doncaster Posts : 3520
About Me! My Name: gemma Status: Daddy Number of Children: 2
| Subject: Re: Iv just been accused Wed Dec 08, 2010 8:37 am | |
| omg i am fuming for you, what a cow!!!! does she realise that the charts in the red book are based on bottle fed babies, i had a similar thing happen with oliver, the line kinda went flat, but it finally settled between 25th and 9th centile, and he is happy and healthy, just means he's not going to be a tall adult from my hv's mouth(who btw wasnt concerned), from reading around it seems like it can be common for bf babies not to follow the centiles...as long as she is putting on weight then she's fine, your doing a brill job, tell her to stick her centiles up her arse xx |
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michellenevan
Age : 40 Join date : 2010-08-18 Location : scotland Posts : 1037
| Subject: Re: Iv just been accused Wed Dec 08, 2010 8:38 am | |
| what an absolute cow, id def put in a complaint about her not jst to ur surgery id try and find out who her boss is and put a written complaint in to her actual boss thats absolutely shocking what she said to u and extremely unprofessional |
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EmzandFlick
Age : 37 Join date : 2010-08-19 Posts : 2251
About Me! My Name: Status: Mummy Number of Children: 1
| Subject: Re: Iv just been accused Wed Dec 08, 2010 8:40 am | |
| I would defo complain hun. Just in case she reports it. What a Biatch!!!! Some MW's just have no frickin' clue! If you were 'starving' your children does she really think you would still have them?? I am fuming Anyone can see you are a fab Mummy! xxxxx |
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xemplus2x
Age : 39 Join date : 2010-08-31 Location : wales Posts : 1731
About Me! My Name: Emma Status: Mummy Number of Children: 2
| Subject: Re: Iv just been accused Wed Dec 08, 2010 8:56 am | |
| Thanks ladies now iv calmed down feel bit better, as rob says I need to grow some balls!! But I don't think iv over reacted though I'm still mad. Hollies spark out in my arms after iv fed her. What more am I ment to do?? Pinch her & force my nipple in her mouth lol
That's what's happened she's dropped from 25th to 9th but I'm small all my family are and robs family are too so no chance them being big! Just like to worry you don't they only just been to the peadatrition few weeks with lillie as she's 'too small' but he just laughed saying she's fine. Argh bet if they put on too much weight then that will be wrong too!! Xx |
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Mario
Join date : 2010-08-16 Posts : 6252
| Subject: Re: Iv just been accused Wed Dec 08, 2010 9:02 am | |
| Id def put in a complaint about her and see if you can get changed to another hv. You need to have one who supports you hon. *Hugs* |
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Vicki
Age : 39 Join date : 2010-08-19 Location : Stroud, Gloucestershire Posts : 1473
About Me! My Name: Vicki Status: Mummy Number of Children: 1
| Subject: Re: Iv just been accused Wed Dec 08, 2010 8:38 pm | |
| thats so rude and wrong hunnie, i would have given her a piece of my mind and asked her to leave, i would defo complain about her!! x |
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Suse
Age : 42 Join date : 2010-08-19 Location : England Posts : 3128
About Me! My Name: Suse Status: Mummy Number of Children: 2
| Subject: Re: Iv just been accused Wed Dec 08, 2010 10:26 pm | |
| Grrrr Em, sorry only just seen this but that made me soooo blinking angry!!!!! You are a fantastic mum to both of your girls and doing brilliantly with the BF hun so dont let anyone tell you differently!!!!! As for Hollie not gaining as much weight, well thats ridiculous, BF babies sometimes dont gain quickly and she should know that being a 'professional' (although I question that). I do understand that you dont want to complain as you 'know' her but maybe say something to her when you see her next. But please dont give up because of what that silly moo said - I had the exact same problem and perservered and it turns out Libby is just tiny (just like Lillie) xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx |
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