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Subject: Re: Perfect Mums Sat Jan 08, 2011 11:02 am

mara wrote:: My house is ALWAYS clean and tidy too, although my kids do eat sandwiches, but i dont spen all day playing with them either, what does that make me

monica from friends ??????

and yet normal lol !

Subject: Re: Perfect Mums Sat Jan 08, 2011 11:03 am

mara wrote:: My house is ALWAYS clean and tidy too, although my kids do eat sandwiches, but i dont spen all day playing with them either, what does that make me

yeh well if we all had Clint to do the housework we'd have a clean and tidy house Laughing

I think it makes you normal.

I once read someone say about a mother who doesn't play with their kids all day long - why did they have kids...this person was in fact talking out of her arse as works more than 1 job and does college study...but kids do not need 100% attention!

Subject: Re: Perfect Mums Sat Jan 08, 2011 11:06 am

Lisa wrote:

mara wrote:: My house is ALWAYS clean and tidy too, although my kids do eat sandwiches, but i dont spen all day playing with them either, what does that make me

yeh well if we all had Clint to do the housework we'd have a clean and tidy house Laughing

I think it makes you normal.

I once read someone say about a mother who doesn't play with their kids all day long - why did they have kids...this person was in fact talking out of her arse as works more than 1 job and does college study...but kids do not need 100% attention!

I know exactly who you are talking about and I have felt bad since reading it because most people agreed! So if everyone could just reassure me that I don't need to play with Ollie for every minute he's awake that would be great lol

Subject: Re: Perfect Mums Sat Jan 08, 2011 11:10 am

Well I can reassure you Lita!

Izzy has, since ever was able to play alone, been perfectly capable and happy to play alone..now she likes to sit alone and look at her books, or play with her dollies alone...and she also likes to read with me and comes with a book to sit on my knee if she so pleases or gets my hand and takes me to where ever she wants to play.
I do voluntarily play with her each day of course....and sometimes she tells me to sod off!

Subject: Re: Perfect Mums Sat Jan 08, 2011 11:12 am

Ha Lisa i presume you was being sarcastic!!! Clint is my 5th child. He may do the washing every now and then and thats it Laughing

I agree, you cannot possibly play with your child all day long!! It would drive me nuts!! They need to learn to spend time on their own too and to entertain themselves. I couldnt live in a messy house and just sit playing with the kids constantly!!! Laughing

They get my attention 24/7 whilst i am doing other things and i will probably spend around 4-5 hrs spread over the day totally focusing on Sam and Archie and nothing else.

Obviously the older kids dont need or want that amount of attention, they are either out, glued to a game/listening to music or annoying me Very Happy

Subject: Re: Perfect Mums Sat Jan 08, 2011 11:13 am

Lita wrote:

Lisa wrote:

mara wrote:: My house is ALWAYS clean and tidy too, although my kids do eat sandwiches, but i dont spen all day playing with them either, what does that make me

yeh well if we all had Clint to do the housework we'd have a clean and tidy house Laughing

I think it makes you normal.

I once read someone say about a mother who doesn't play with their kids all day long - why did they have kids...this person was in fact talking out of her arse as works more than 1 job and does college study...but kids do not need 100% attention!

I know exactly who you are talking about and I have felt bad since reading it because most people agreed! So if everyone could just reassure me that I don't need to play with Ollie for every minute he's awake that would be great lol

nurturing an independant child !!!

Subject: Re: Perfect Mums Sat Jan 08, 2011 11:13 am

haha of course I was!

Subject: Re: Perfect Mums Sat Jan 08, 2011 11:14 am

Lita please be reassured you do not have to spend every minute of every day focusing on your child. xxx

Subject: Re: Perfect Mums Sat Jan 08, 2011 11:17 am

That's what I do with Ollie at the moment, he's quite happy to play by himself. Since reading that post I have felt really guilty for not playing with him more but I spend a lot of the time lying on the settee thanks to lack of energy although I do constantly talk to him and he loves coming to give me cuddles and brings me toys to play with and books to read to him and we snuggle while we watch cbeebies/citv so I suppose that counts in a way doesn't it?

Subject: Re: Perfect Mums Sat Jan 08, 2011 11:18 am

lita what post has you questioning yourself ? is it on here ? x

Subject: Re: Perfect Mums Sat Jan 08, 2011 11:19 am

No, it was on AB ages and ages ago - have never forgotten it though.

Subject: Re: Perfect Mums Sat Jan 08, 2011 11:23 am

no it was 'elsewhere' but it wasnt just one post - its like on and on and on about the same thing!

Subject: Re: Perfect Mums Sat Jan 08, 2011 11:26 am

I remember the post too and i actually got into a bit of an argument on the post with another member lol.

Lita even if Ollie is busy doing his own thing and you are in the same room as him just chatting to him this is classed as spending time with him. Sam potters around after me all morning whilst i do my chores, he may brum a car along a surface after my cloth or "hoover" for me. This is spending time with him. He loves having a cloth to help clear up. Even if your just sat on the sofa cbeebies blaring out, you can still interact with him without going into the full blown sat on the carpet playing.

Enough of your guilt mrs!!!! Theres no such thing as a perfect mummy as "some" people would have us believe!!!

Subject: Re: Perfect Mums Sat Jan 08, 2011 11:28 am

Yay, I'm not a crap mummy after all Laughing

Thanks girlies Very Happy

xxx

Subject: Re: Perfect Mums Sat Jan 08, 2011 7:28 pm

I think its great that kids learn to play on their own. I have really appreciated Aimee being used to this since having lily as I would never be able to feed lily, stop her crying, etc if I had Aimee expecting me to play with her 100 percent of my time x

Subject: Re: Perfect Mums Sat Jan 08, 2011 9:23 pm

krikey, whilst im on here, bens practicing rolling about the floor, i caan hear alasdair thundering around his room and jumping off his bed. and ferg is sat playing fifa lol!! im a shocking parent.

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