of people who are married/getting married
i want to get married so much!! unortunately lack of money is the huge factor
theresa fab deal for literally everything...except dresses/suits/flowers/photographer etc. for 2.500
i really want to be married and have that fab day, but cant see to find a way to afford it!! we couldnt save up as we dont have much spare cash each month...
any tips lol

I think it depends on if you want to be married or if you want the big flashy wedding more, I'm getting married in April but doing it cheaply. Luckily for me I never wanted the big wedding though

Could you have a wee registry wedding then you can renew your vows in a few years and have the big bash then? My hubby and I spent £18,000 on our wedding although we don't regret the day and it was a gorgeous day, the best in my life, we regret spending so much seeing as we are still paying for it which in turn has left us brassic If I could do it again I'd have a little wedding then save up for the big do xxxxxxxxxxxxx

i argee with dolina.... but i wouldn't get married in a register office... we spent 10k on ours and there is few parts where i got of hagled a bit more and got it better like the venue and photos... but i wished i scaled my wedding down a bit and and went somewhere more pretty like satley home and had a massive party after for the rest of the party x

my husband uncle he went to the lakedistrict and got married he had close firend and that was it. he didn't tell us untill few days later now he is having a massive party in april!! xxx

I want to get married to I would settle for a reg office but my parents would be devastated if we went off and didnt invite any1 I would love the big white dress and all the rest of it but thats not gonna happen like EVER so if i just go 4 the little reg office I wouldnt really want any1 there at all

We spent 4k on ours and it was amazing but even then we had a load of stuff we didnt need and could have probably done it for significantly less. Its more about the day than the extras tbh so id go for it

It sounds more like you want a wedding than a marriage to me

I have no idea how much mine cost because my parents paid for it all. It was only a small do but I bet the bill was still high enough. It was nearly 11 years ago too.

It was a fun day but now I have a marriage and some days that is less fun

Oh and tips:

Debenhams wedding dresses range is quite nice, mine cost me £110 and was lovely

Make stuff yourself, i made my own table decorations and invites, place settings etc, saved me a fortune and added some nice touches which were very personal

Ebay-favours can be gotten for very little there. I spent 200 on mine and it was a personalised muslin bag filled with scottish beach stones. 3 stones in each bag inscribed with sentiments in english and gaelic i feel are important in life like love, courage, faith. One of my 'perks' as could have gotten something far more inexpensive but even then it wasnt a bad price. Also got my bridesmaid dresses from hong kong for 35 pound each in purple silk

Numbers-main cost is reception so how big are you going. Do you need to invite a million people. If you can afford to and you want to thats fine but i had 35 at my wedding and it was lovely and cosy

Cake-doesnt have to be some big pro thing for hundreds.Does anyone you know make lovely cakes *cough* banda ladies *cough* I found a local lady in town i got married in who did it for 100 pound but if id been getting married in my own town my boss does lovely ones and would have done mine for cost of ingredients about 25 quid, it was just to far to transport it

Photographers-same do you know anyone who is studying photography or does it as a hobby but is particularly talented. Most wedding photographers charge ridiculous odds imo.

Haha we spent about £300 on ours!!

BUT it was a fantastic, relaxed day and we loved it, we had a registry office (and the registrar was actually a member of Simon's family), then a lovely meal and then on to bowling in the evening. We had 12 people in total for the whole day, which to me made it even more special.

I truely believe it doesnt matter how much you spend - the end result is the same - surely thats all that matters???? xxx

I completely agree with what the other ladies have said, we spent around £4000 on our wedding and it was a beautiful day, but to be honest...I even regret spending that much on it.....I just look back and think all that money just for one day.

To me it wouldn't have mattered where, when or how I did it as long as I married the same person.

With regards to money saving tips, I got my dress ''off the rack'' in the Bridal Shop, it was a SALE dress and had to be altered, but only cost me £299, we bought all of our bridesmaid dresses from eBay and also our flowers. I made all our invitations, name cards, scrolls for the table and had my sister who is a hairdresser do most of the bridesmaids hairs so that they were free.

You can get dresses from places like Debenhams now, which are lovely and cost around £100 and also M&S do lovely cakes.

xx

ours was about 500 including rings dress etc...the actual ceremony was £125 and we would have been happy with that we promised people we would have a party when we could afford it...that was two and a half years ago and tbh we never really wanted a party or a big wedding

How about getting married at 3pm so you have your meal or buffet at about 6pm, meaning you dont have to supply food twice in the day?

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lol i truly dont want THE BIG WHITE wedding we're not traditanalists at all and all we want to do is get married.
i honestly dont know how we'd even afford £200 for the wedding nevermind over a grand:/
i want to get married with only a few ppl...butmy family want the whole big bling wedding...mymum said i would regret getting married in a registry office..i do think she's right, in the fact that the registry office in stanley is shite lol peeling off wallpaper etc.
i wouldnt be bothered about a big posh frock, adam already has his suit...just plain...we're not big on the bling at all
thanks for the tips tho
looks like we'll never get married

I'd be happy with a small wedding! Just need to get him to propose first

I hope you can figure out something soon!

thankoos wriggler
me too!!! just not in a grotty registry office...and theres only 1 in the town we live boo!! OH says its a waste of money anyway
hmmm why'd you propose to me then lol

we got married at Gretna and it was about £500 I think, Stanley registry office is awful though, my cousin got married there.

louadambabybenjamin wrote:

lol i truly dont want THE BIG WHITE wedding we're not traditanalists at all and all we want to do is get married.
i honestly dont know how we'd even afford £200 for the wedding nevermind over a grand:/
i want to get married with only a few ppl...butmy family want the whole big bling wedding...mymum said i would regret getting married in a registry office..i do think she's right, in the fact that the registry office in stanley is shite lol peeling off wallpaper etc.
i wouldnt be bothered about a big posh frock, adam already has his suit...just plain...we're not big on the bling at all
thanks for the tips tho
looks like we'll never get married

Stanley as in County Durham????
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ah ha thanks for making me feel less guilty joanne!! i kept thinking...am i being too snobby etc. but it is just dreadful!
its so not romantic at all...im not bothered about bling/expensive stuff...just romance shame romance has to be soooo bloody expensive lol

yeah stanley/county durham!
ah ive just seen ur location! omg! u dont live in stanley do u
i bet i know u lol

I do, I do
Tantobie
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and your right the registry office is minging!
I got married at St Margarets church in Tanfield village
Its gorgeous in there
Xxx

my mam got married in the durham registry office - is that the same one? it was 8 years ago tho so could have went downhill since then - i thought it was ok?! sunderland regsitry office is ok lou?

our wedding cost about 7k and we did alot of stuff ourself but cud have cut it right back down.

i know wat u mean about wanting to have a nice wedding tho - same for me. have u considered going abroad to get married - that way u can have a ncie famnily holiday at the same time! x

oooo very nice
cant even afford stanley registry office how bad is that! :/
meh. just a pipe dream. hence why i'm jealous lol
ahhh tantobie we live in east stanley!

amy---no it isnt durham registry office...i wouldnt mind getting married in a nice one...that wouldnt bother me...just not stanleys one im sure u canonly get married in a registry office in ur district...hmmm...ave to have a look

would LOVE to get married abroad...but lack of money etc stops us from doing that too...meh. it just depresses me even further that i cant be mrs malpass lol

It cost us £500 to get married in church, stupid me thought they married people for god and that, not for bloody profit! It was going to be an extra £50 for bells.

You would have thought they would have thrown in the bells for £500 wouldnt you!

I used to live in East Stanley too, down the bottom of the barretts estate

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