Does anyone have friends like this?
I have one and its starting to grate me a little, as Tayla is quite a bit older than her lo (shes 7months) but she seems to compare and try and compete? I cant really explain it, but just little things like she put her in a forward facing car seat at 6months, weaned her early, puts her in grown up clothes, tries to make her walk....i cant really think at the mo but u get this gist??
I just think, wow slow down and enjoy ur baby!!

She'll regret that when her baby is 2 +

I dont know either.

Other than sleeping through , I wouldnt wish a second of my babies away.

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I remember being keen for Chloe to reach her milestones, but now I'd love to turn back time, If we had any more I'd enjoy them being babies a lot more.

I think it's only really when they start walking that you suddenly realise oh my god my babies gone... but when you HAVE a baby you want a toddler... but I know exactly what you mean
my friends got a 2 month old and she told me the other day that he had started talking... apparently he says cat.. and some other things. i was like errr.... ok....
and she and her OH both keep saying I can't wait for him to do this and that blah blah I keep saying enjoy him while all he does is sit there... because it only gets harder!

Ive got a group of mummy friends (antenatal class) who are the same, H is quite a dot and they constantly go on about it, ones even potty training her 18month old??? which i thinks a bit early and shes not showed any signs shes ready, shes just doing it for her own convenience I feel. I weaned both mine early but for different reasons than to get the to 'grow up' quicker.
I know its natural to compare your babies to their peers but there is def a way of going about it, when i meet up with 2 of the antenatal mums I feel its a constant comparison battle of whos baby is doing this first etc. Hannah walked later than theirs and god did i know about it, she never went on her tummy and they used to kind of rub that in too. They are really nice when they arent comparing, else I wouldnt bother seeing them, but it does make me feel a bit pants when spending and afternoon with them, but still makes me do nothing no different Hannah is her own person and has her whole life ahead of her to grow up (and prob be compared) so im letting her stay as young as I can for as long as i can.
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i think sometimes im a bit like that - i don't put elijah in big boy clothes or anything and didn't wean early, but i'm so excited for him that he has two teeth and is nearly crawling! it's so exciting seeing him learn all of these new things, especially sitting up which was great, that sometimes you forget to just stop and enjoy how they are all of the time even now i feel a little sad he isn't the tiny squishy that he was, and i can't carry him around in his moses basket while he sleeps...but it's also so exciting and amazing seeing the new things he learns i think i am guilty of willing him to develop

i know way too many that do this and it baffles me...i'd rather enjoy the little baby stage as it doesn't last anywhere near long enough!

You've just described my SIL there Terri, the silly bint tries to make Matthew take his weight by himself on his feet when he was only 3 months

I think being excited about milestones and wanting your kids to reach them is natural and not wrong at all as it shows they are growing and developing well but theres a stage when its silly eg talking at 2 months lol, car seat change at 6, walking at 7 is all extreme.

I'm gonna be honest here and say I don't enjoy 0-4 months really I did kind of wish it away with both of mine (don't get me wrong I loved my teeny newborns but... )and I can't say I regret it. I'm just not a teeny baby type of person. Once they hit that 4 month mark and really start to take on a little personality of their own I come into my own and I love love love it! I don't wish teh milestones away - quite the opposite - I wish Hannah would blummin slow down she just seems so grown up (I think coz she is so huge - she is the same weight Thomas was at 12 months but is tall too).

Your friend does sound a bit ridiculous though hun - that's like me comparing Hannah to Tay erm?? ok!!!

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Oh yeh of course we all get excited and proud of the new things our lo's learn and we all give encouragement. I cant really put my finger on it but my friends just a bit weird! Like with weaning, instead of taking it slow she went from have a tiny bit of baby rice to chicken and pasta and 3 meals a day in about 2 weeks, which personally i think is going too fast!
If-when i have another i would keep them in 'baby' clothes for longer (although tay was naked most of the time!) i would make the most of not having to cook proper meals all the time and just enjoy them

im with debs. i really didnt enjoy alfie when he was a baby and looking back im quite sad about it. i dont know if i even had a bit of pnd but i was down alot of the time and i can remember wishing him to get older so i could ocmmunicate with him. dont get me wrong i loved him to bits but i think i didnt realise how hard it woul be! when he hit about 4 months i was so happy andn turened into a happy mammy!

i do hate it tho when people do stuff like that. my friend has a baby who can apparently roll over on purpose at 4 weeks old andanother friend with a 12 weeks old who is convinced her baby can say "chicken" - hmmmmmm!!

its an odd one, i wish ava had stayed a baby for longer, she seemed to develop really quick and i miss the cuddles!. im so proud when she reaches her milestones and i do spend a lot of time doing activities with her to help with her development, i dont see it as wanting her to grow up too quick though.

I definitely looked forward to her taking first steps etc but now wish we could slow things down as its going too fast!

I think we all know someone who has a baby that is making its own dinner whilst writing its first novel all before its 1st birthday but i just think leave them to it as they will calm down eventually.

That said i am happy to brag about Lily's general ace-ness given half a chance

I'm not a baby fan either and for me it goes even further and I would say the older Wil gets the more I like him. The first 6 months for me were draining (probably because I was on mat leave and didn't do anything for me).

Wil is quite grown up in his own way but he has been left to develop at his own pace. I encourage him to do things independently, .e.g. I will say to him 'go and put your shoes on' knowing full well he needs help with it but he gets them and tries to put them on. One day he will do it.

Children all develop at their own pace, pushing too hard can send them backwards and cause permanent self worth issues and babying them can give them lifelong inabilities to take responsibility for themselves

It is the hardest job in the world bringing up children and we are all doing our best

It's completely different though wanting or being pleased when your children reach their milestons (whenever age that would be) to rushing them into it.

We all want our kids to be able to do things... like I can't wait for Tyler to talk and couldn't wait for him to walk but I didn't sit there forcing him to do it I just let him get on with it...

my friend (with the talking 2 month old) sits him up (from about 3 weeks old) on the sofa and takes photo's of him... as if to say look he can sit up on his own. and saying he sleeps through the night when actually she doesn't put him to bed till 11 and he still has one feed before waking up at about 7 !!?

I too have a friend who would make her child bare weight when he was very young and it makes me wonder what goes through peoples heads sometimes its not a competition!

With my firt baby I think I did wish her babyness away, but only because I was so excited each time she reached a milestone. She's 20 now and I still get so excited when she achieves, ie exams, jobs, first holiday without us, passing her driving test, buying a car etc. For me it's just a first baby thing, I'm totally amazed that she's achieved these things and I'm so proud of her every acheivment. I'm pretty much the same with my son who's 13.

But with ellie, I'd like to keep her as my baby forever as I know she's the last.

I think that alot of first time mums are like have discribed. There are the odd few like you guys who want their babies to be babies but on the whole, first time mum's tend to push for milestones etc because they really don't realise just how quickly time flys!

I have to admit i was not as bad as has been discribed but i definatly did want Tommy to meet milestones before other children when he was little.
With Charlie its a whole different kettle of fish! I don't ever want hom to grow up!! I do miss the first smile, learning to crawl etc etc but i am loving him at this age, he is a little character and its brilliant!

this was my SIL and brother right from the day my nephew archie was born theyve rushed him ......(Archie is 4 months older than louis)
-holding his own bottle prety much from the word go
-3 meals and 2 puddings a day at 3 months
-sittin "on his own" at 12 weeks
-aviator glasses at 5 months
-he weighed over 24lbs at 4 months old only weighed 7lb 1 and a half oz at birth
-they had him standin from almost new born

worse thing of all theyve always digged at me because i havent done the same with louis and milestone wise louis has reached them earlier than archie and i have never pushed lou into anything too soon hes stil never worn a pair of jeans i want him as a baby lol one instance which pissed me off was at my mums house we were all round all at around 6.30 archie was scoffing sweets and chocolate and louis had his eye on a chocolate so i moved the chocolate and entertained louis n my brother was like why cant he have one your pathetic i said becauise hes only 5 months and hes not even eating food yet so no...he couldnt see the problem grrr

they also claim archie has slept through since 8 weeks old which my mum has discovered hes in actual fact a terrible sleeper and has to be cuddled to sleep on the sofa

Wow at 3 meals and 2 puddings a day at 3 months poor kid musta had awful belly ache. Mindf you on the sunglasses front i have to say i had c in baby banz right early on and in wrap around sunglasses by about 10 months. Its actually recommended you have em in sunglasses as well as sun hats even on overcast days and she now whines at me if its too bright and i dont have her 'asses' with me

They didn't fit him and they were worn indoors everything was about fashion she was ridiculous they expect far too much too soon I found last summer a hat suncream and parasol worked fine as he was only small x

No C's were always for going out and were baby designed sunglasses with a strap. Now shes older she has wrap arounds cos she wants to look like Daddy but they are still toddler ones though she does wear em in doors but only cos she nicks em off the table lol. Will reuse her baby banz for A when she arrives.

I agree with Babymilly though, i expect im gonna want A to be a baby far longer knowing im not doing this again