lol can you come over here and tell him for me? x

I don't really understand why you're still with him, you clearly seem very unhappy in your relationship, so why not make a clean break of it, I don't think the issue here is what you should/shouldn't do it's more the way he talks to you like you're a piece of a crap, whether you work or stay at home you should be equal partners in a relationship and I sense that he feels like he's superior to you in some way.

Sorry to be harsh but if it were me in your position I would have left him ages ago, freom your recent posts I can't possibly see what positive things you are getting out of being with him

I agree completely with Mandy, I voted no, not because I wouldn't love to be home with Harry more, but cos I would rather work 40 hours like I do now than be in your position with that complete pig. Is there actually anything good in your relationship anymore, it sounds to me like you'd be better off without him really hun xx

LisaGandAmelia wrote:

Yeah I would feel very grateful to be given the chance to cook, clean and generally look after your man child.................NOT! The cheek of him!

man child pmsl!!! i know he has a right cheek dee!!! think he needs to take a nice long look in the mirror and realise what he has got!!!

xx

i agree with mandy too.im back at work now and work mon-wed 3 full days. when im off thurs/fri i will keep the house generally tidy.wash dishes,keep kitchen clean, tidy away toys etc but then once a week (normally a sunday) we have a good clean around the house. we have our own jobs which we always do each. i do the laundry, ironing(if we have any), generally do most of "alfie related things",dust,clean bathroom, change beds etc. Gav nearly always does the washing up, cleans the kitchen quite alot, hoovers and puts the bin out. we take it in turns cooking meals depending on wat we fancy. i think u shud work as a team rather than him expecting things from u. its not on and u deserve better! x

thank u. Maybe i should let him read this. He'd more than likely go off on one bout it tho lol x

Brace yourself....I am about to be completely honest because that's what people who genuinely care about you do.

FFS Dee go and look in a mirror at yourself and see what this relationship is doing to you.
Do you think so little of yourself that you are prepared to accept another person, let alone the father of your child, speaking to you like this?

I haven't responded to your poll because it is not a case of wanting or not wanting to be in your position its about allowing yourself to be in that position at all.

No person has the right to treat you in this way unless you allow them too and unfortunately by continuing to argue with your OH rather than taking decisive action you are effectively telling him it is okay to treat you like this.

Now I have said all that I will also say that we are all here for you and will support you whatever you decide to do because that's what friends do.

Im sorry Dee but I completely agree with Mandy and Gill, and Gill has basically said what I was going to say, I think you prob know yourself that he shouldnt be treating you like this and the issue isnt 'who does what jobs/or who goes out to work everyday' at all but him being a complete arse wipe! He seriously needs to buck up the way he acts to you. Its not right. Sorry if I sound harsh and really hope you dont take it the wrong way, I dont understand why women let their oh's treat them like this??? I suppose unless you are in that situation you never know how you are going to react but id like to think (from the other things you've said about him) that if it was me id be out of there like a shot.
Big hugs and hope you sort it one way or another
xx

Gill is saying everything i say over and over..... and im sure becki and steph!!

Dee, ur worth more than this.