Look at what you started mrs lol so you think she knows we are talking about her lol x

hahah maybe, well I deleted her now, i cant bear to see the stupid remarks any longer!

At least we have no trouble makers on here that will tell unlike the other x

Im not being funny but if she pays all her bills and gets reon stuff first how much money does she get off of govt in the first place but no amount of money will make up for the mothers love, time and attention he is missing out on x

Thats a good question, OH works full time and after bills are paid we have literally a few measley quid xxx

EmzandFlick wrote:

Thats a good question, OH works full time and after bills are paid we have literally a few measley quid xxx

Same here hun, we are brasic..but thats a price we're willing to pay

My son is my life, I don't get to go out as we simply can afford it. 1hr to soak in a bath is a treat for me

We usually go out once every 4-6 weeks, oh drinks like a fish an costs a fortune I feel guilty everytime i spend money on myself and not Tay!

ZeeMoo wrote:

EmzandFlick wrote:

Thats a good question, OH works full time and after bills are paid we have literally a few measley quid xxx

Same here hun, we are brasic..but thats a price we're willing to pay

My son is my life, I don't get to go out as we simply can afford it. 1hr to soak in a bath is a treat for me

Snap!

xx

the money i spend on my self is having my hair done every 3 months thats how long it takes me to save up!
the rest of my money goes on bill,food and babys!
OH works every hour god sends and i would nights 2 times a week

I get £65.00 a week benefit marc earns roughly £1500 a month these are our outgtoings

mortgage - £850
CSA - £150
Gas & Electric - £90
Water - £40
Food - £130
Petrol £55
Council Tax - £120
Sky, Phone, Internet- £25
Mobile - £45
Mobile - £35

Plus bits needed throughout the month

but that alone above comes to £1540

Farz wrote:

I feel guilty everytime i spend money on myself and not Tay!

Same here hun. I got some money for my birthday last week and was shopping for new shoes for myself (if you really knew me, you'd know I am mad on bags and shoes, oh and coats lol) anyhoo, after trying a few pairs on and oliver even undoing them and passing them to me..I actually felt guilty, put the shoes down and walked out I've still got that money in my purse now

Some people seem to see their kids as more of a hindrence (sp?) than a blessing.

It's sad, she obviously didn't plan her little boy and clearly doesn't think he's worth giving up her life of partying for him. x

iv just clicked who your on about, Iv noticed her posts was laughing at them this morn think the same.

Just went to snoop what you guys saying.... shes gone. so shes deleted me between this morn and now. wouldnt mind But iv spoken to her a few times. ahhhhhhhhh well

ZeeMoo wrote:

Farz wrote:

I feel guilty everytime i spend money on myself and not Tay!

Same here hun. I got some money for my birthday last week and was shopping for new shoes for myself (if you really knew me, you'd know I am mad on bags and shoes, oh and coats lol) anyhoo, after trying a few pairs on and oliver even undoing them and passing them to me..I actually felt guilty, put the shoes down and walked out I've still got that money in my purse now

Lol Zee I am exactly the same, it's my birthday tomorrow and my mum rang and asked what i want so I said I would like a new pair of jeans so she could just send me the money but she refuses to give me cash coz she knows I'll end up spending it on the kids and not getting my birthday present so she is coming down here to take me shopping It just doesn't feel right for me to buy myself something these days

xx

I have been reading the posts but didn't want to comment as I'm not sure I know who it is? Or do I? lol..
Ahh from what I've heard..I just can't understand how this person can afford to go out and not only that..why the heck would you want to leave your child that often?! Myself and my oh are extremely fortunate financially, especially for our age and he works all the hours god sends so we are well provided for that's why when we get a bit of precious time together..we spend it as a family..I have been out clubbing once and my son is nearly 8 months old

i used to be out 2 times a week clubbing befor i had the girls! i used to spend the money on clothes, drink and fags (god sound such a lovely person lol)

NOW its been 2 years since i went out and had a drink not smoked in 2 years and IF i have any spare pennys it goes to the girls!
i think its more fun spending it on them than myself!

I have had my little say on FB too now! Am in a cow bag mood! Like I said I would get bored going out that much! I did my going out before I had my boys!

Xx

Exactly Sunshine - My Lo is nearly 21mths and me and OH haven't been out for over 2yrs (last time was a meal out for my birthday when I was pg with LO).

We have just planned to go out for OH's b-day..in, wait for this - November lol I asked my mum if she would babysit and she was all for it Then I looked across at my son and felt pangs of guilt Silly really..cos he probably can't wait for us to get out the door...as soon as nana arrives lately, he's getting his coat on and off out the door

even my birthday and christmas money either goes on gracie, food or put towards bills i would love to trat myself but even looking at a pair of shoes makes me guilt ridden like today went to town because my trainers are about 5 years old and ever so slightly past it what did i do keep my trainers and spent £24 on getting gracie some new ones

My treat is my hair every 6 weeks getting cut and every other time I have it coloured cause I can't afford it everytime round! I do try to save £15-£20 a week to buy the kids and me clothes and treats but that doesn't always work out!

I got excited this week cause my mum cooked twice for us and we had a take away once so I didn't have to cook! I am that sad!

I don't know how people do justify going out that
often after all having kids means you have to change your priorities!

Xx

aww Zeemoo.. you way deserve some quality time with your oh after all that time!
Don't get me wrong, I don't ever go "out out" now..because I know that I'd rather spend the money and time on my son but I think it is equally important to spend quality time with your oh if you can get it, I think otherwise you can lose yourself sometimes as being a mum is so emotionally/time consuming. Although it is always so hard to leave them, it is a god send if you have someone to babysit for a few hours one evening so you can go to the cinema or for a walk etc or even just pamper yourself if you need it!

SuziandGracie- bless ya, i think you more than deserve some new trainers..you shouldn't feel guilty, seems to me like your lo isn't ever gonna go without

I go against the grain a little here, I go out with the girls once a week, not to get piddled but to get a bit of me time, Chloe is either in bed or just about to go and Daddy stays in with her, and me and Matt go out once or twice a month and get a babysitter. I also don't feel guilty about spending money on myself

The reasons why are Matt works very hard to support us, I work 4 mornings a week and run my cake business, we claim no benefits so feel we're entitled to spend a little on ourselves. Chloe has everything she could possibly want, all the toys she needs, her nanny buys her so many clothes I hardly ever have to, so I don't feel bad about buying myself something. I need a little time to myself and me and Matt need time to be a couple not just a mum and Dad, she has all the love and attention she needs during her waking hours as I'm only at work for a couple of hours in the morning, so I don't see the problem in going out whilst she's asleep and having someone sit with her as she is none the wiser.

I think it's all about getting a balance which works for you

is it really sad that i now wish i had fb so i could have read what the ho ha was lol!

Hey atleast one thing has come from it, non of you have to see her annoying posts and status's

Im like most of you! am riddled with guilt when i spend money on myself, rarely go out, and actually even if i do i tend to drive so i dont spend much money and so i am ok to get up with the boys in the morning. i always try to have a sitter at my house so the boys are at home and comfortable.

I don't think that's against the grain Mandy..well not from my point of view. Myself and my oh are in a similar position to you, he also works very hard and we claim no support so we do spend money on ourselves but equally our son has everything he needs but I agree it's important to spend time not just as a mother but as a wife or girlfriend and for yourself too. There's nothing wrong with that at all, I just think constantly clubbing or spending time/money on things that aren't a priority can be quite detrimental to your relationship with your child and that's such a shame