and then had a good one? having followed mario's posts and now susan's too (aww) i am suddenly getting cold feet about ttc later in the year - i had an actual flashback yesterday where i had heartburn/sore tummy and thought ohhhh f*cking hell, i remember this!

so...is it possible to have a vile one and then a nice easy one?

I think so, no 2 are the same, I really dont think anyone can say for sure that good follows good, or good follows bad etc

I have always said though that I will have the pregnancy from hell next time, as I didnt know for 4 months (so that cant have been at all bad can it hahah) and then apart from SPD and coccyx pain I was fine...I'll also have the labour and birth from hell, cos I had an easy time of it...and then to top it off I will give birth to The Devil Child that wont eat, wont sleep, bites my boobs, shits for england and oh yeh...weighs 10lbs at birth

hmmmm maybe you should be more afraid than me then by that token lisa

LOL thanfully I am never broody, cos that would be hard to be broody and worry!
I do want another, but no desperate need for one if that makes sense

Id like to give you a reassuring answer mari but i went from shit preg to shit preg and am so scared of ever getting preg again ive asked them to cut my tubes during the c section!

On the up side i had a terrible preg followed by a lovely easy kid, shes no angel dont get me wrong but i think i have a pretty easy going, easy to look after happy little girl so im hoping for more of same-karmic rewards and all that

I had a bad 1st pregnancy, always at the hospital having bp checked etc etc, got pre eclampsia and spent nearly 3 weeks in hospital. Got infection after my c section and still had high bp afterwards as well.With Lewis I had no problems at all, no high bp no complications after c section x

Is it possible to have a nice pregnancy???

I wouldn't say I had terrible pgs - but I still hated it. My hormones were completely hay wire and I became a different person, I got very massive very quick with both and had massive water retention, had terrible heart burn with both, complete exhaustion for the first 12 weeks, could hardly walk for hip pain and BH for the last 2-3 months of each and just generally felt cack apart from maybe 2-3 weeks around 13-16 weeks - pretty much a normal pg? No?

The only difference I had was no sickness with Hannah so I suppose my second pg was marginally better than my first

xx

p.s. have another hun - I loved having one but I adore having two even though they do fight like cat and dog now

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p.s. have another hun - I loved having one but I adore having two

fancy being my surrogate oh wait...i think pixel already has that job!

i just had such a vivid flashback of feeling so awful for 4 months that i couldn't move....then ok for a few weeks then heartburn/nausea/high bp/swelling/hip and back pain arrrrrrgghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

i wonder if it's harder the second time knowing what you are in for? or easier because you know what to expect......or harder because you have another little squishy to take care of.....or easier because you have some idea of what you are doing.......or just *different*

i suppose my labour and recover were the best they could be, 2.5 hour labour (induced), home within 24hours, no stitches or infections...and a lovely little baby who after 9 months has nearly got the hang of sleeping (but only wants to play play giggle and play) so i have definitely been blessed in some respects

maybe it is all karmic......hm mario i can't imagine taking that decision, so i obviously can't hate pregnancy that much! and amanda how did you decide to brave it again after the first time???

I think my 2nd was just 'different' tbh. Yes it was hard work when all you wanted to do was sleep and you had to be up at the crack of dawn with a crawler/toddler/runner/climber/stunt kid but I remember being completely stressed out in my 1st pg by the unknown element which you don't have as much in your 2nd.

Everybody said to me that near the end I would get a dread type feeling when I remembered what labour was like but I was the opposite. I just wanted the pg done - I couldn't care less about labour - yes it blummin hurts and is the hardest days work you'll do in your life (we all know that)but it marks the end of a 9 month long crap fest so bring it on!

I felt much more relaxed about everything 2nd time round and more prepared so tbh it was a much more pleasant experiance mentally. I have also been 100% more chilled and relaxed with Hannah than I was with Thomas too and I don't know if it's just a coincidence but I have been rewarded with one of the easiest, happiest, most laid back babies I know. Compared to her brother at the same age she is a dream child.

And no I don't fancy being a surrogate - there is a reason Paul is going to book his vasectomy on Wednesday hun

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9 month long crap fest

hahaha perhaps we should write a 'bandas real ladies guide to pregnancy'

ohhh the vasectomy! dun dun dunnnnnnnnnnn how exciting (is that the right word? haha)

my pregnancy with Ollie was awful! I had hyperemisis and was basically sick around 20 times a day all the way through, even while on sickness meds. I swore I'd never get pg ever again

I'm only 20 weeks right now so I don't know whats going to happen but even with the worries I've got this time the actual pregnancy is a million times better

Aw sorry if I'm putting you off hun!

I had an absolutely great pregnancy with Libby - from 34 weeks I did have very high blood pressure which meant I ended up in hossie BUT I felt fantastic and still relished every minute of it.

I think this time I'm so much bigger, he is such a violent wriggly bum and I've been ridiculously uncomfortable for weeks now.

Sooo, you never know you might get lucky and have a dream of a pregnancy next time xxx

Tbh Mari I wanted 2 and didn't have the time to wait due to my age, I got pregnant the first month we tried after H. I didn't have any morning sickness with either. I did get acid reflux with Lewis which I didn't with Harrison but 2nd pregnancy deff better. X

I had a text book pregnancy with no problems according to my notes, I felt mildly nauseous up to 13 weeks then a bit achy towards the end but not a lot else physically.

However...

Mentally it was the worst experience of my life. From about 28 weeks Wil took over my mind and I couldn't think clearly and I hated it.

I then had the opposite birth to what I planned because Wil fancied making a big entrance with lights and instruments rather than water and calm as I wanted.

I then had the OH from hell for 13 weeks once Wil arrived

Fortunately Wil is amazing, sleeps well, eats well and has the ability to stop a room when he walks in.

Needless to stay mum of one suits me just fine thanks

tbh i had two awful pregnancies, to the point i couldnt keep water down
but my mum had two really bad ones where she was in hospital everyday on a drip as she couldnt keep anything down, then with her third she didnt have any symptoms whatsoever x

oooh maybe i have to have 2 grim ones and then i can have a lovely easy one then i suppose mine wasn't the worst, i didn't puke loads i just felt sooooooooo poorly for soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo long it was relentless!

i had a pretty awful pregnancy with alfie. i had no morning sicknes thank god but i did have spd from about 16 weeks. i ended up on the sick from work at 24 weeks and was on crutches and practically bed bound by the end of it. i could hardly walk which turned me into a practical recluse.

worst thing is theyve told me that itll happen against next time - and prob affect me sooner this time.kinda puts me off having another one but i cant wait! x

I'm willing to suffer the SPD for you so I can get another 10 months off work!!

i think we have a plan mwahahaha

my first 3 pregnancys were great then with my son i had the worst pregnancy ever i willed the due date to come quickly every waking hour then when i fell with Ava i was worried it would be much the same but nope it was a walk in the park i enjoyed every moment

My pregnancies were fine on the whole, the only problem I had was a little spd with Charlie, both births were easy peasy as well! I think I carry boys well, I reckon if I have a girl I'll be by the toilet all day and sitter big time!

I can wait to have another baby! I'd love 10 if I could lol x

hmmmm i wonder if it is a boy/girl thing - my friend was really sick all the way through with her son but only sick once or twice with her daughter..hm!

Hmmm not sure about the boy girl thing, in theory both pregnancies have gone brilliantly and exactly the same I just think this time I've got Libby and want to do stuff with her but cant and it is so blinking frustrating! In fact my blood pressure had soared by this time with Libby but at my last mw appointment was really low at 104/60.

Please dont let it put you off though, I cannot wait to see my two 'babies' together and I know it will all be worth it in the end. xx

so far with this one paiges one is good lol. but only saying that as i had morning sickness with this one and in alot of pain so far with this