Hi Ladies,

I am started to get a little bit worried about LO, he just seems to not wont to go to anyone else apart from me or OH.

As soon as anybody holds him he cries for me, as soon as i leave him he screams and gets really upset coz i have left. This is only in others houses his fine in our home

I am getting really upset now, i go back to work in 2 weeks and his staying with both grandparents but wont settle with none of them.

My Mom dont mind him crying she just gets on with it but my OHs mom gets stressed easy and shes worried that Noah will be stressed which will make her stressed. This is putting pressure on me now.

I know its my fault tho, i soley BF for 5 1/2 months so no one had him, maybe once or twice, from 6 months no one has had him either. So i know its my fault. I try to go visiting all the time to try and get him use to people, buts its not really working.

Please tell me its just a phase, his such a fun loving baby but no one hardly sees it coz he always crying for me wen they hold him or following me everywhere

People are now starting to make coments like i dont want to talk to him incase he cries, or good luck i no they might be joking but its not a joke and doesnt help the situation.

Sorry rant over

any advice

Char

Aw char that's hard. Typically they go through this stage I think. My eldest didn't but one of my friends kids did and she would cry if her mum left the room. Hannah can be a bit funny about it and she's a year. He's probably finding his feet. Maybe it's worth leaving him with someone for small blocks of time like 5 mins or so and surrounding him with toys to distract him to get him use to it. It's not your fault hun I think it's just another little stage they go through. Noone has ever really had my two. I could count the times theyve been apart from me on one hand and my eldest is fine. Hopefully it'll get easier quickly x

totally sympathise we've been through it with ava and she was hysterical with everyone apart from me and OH, she's outgrown it now although when we're around strangers for the first 5 mins or so she still snuggles right into me.

eli is a bit like this with some people (arwyn!!!) but generally not quite as bad as he was a month ago - we are starting classes again next week so hoping that will help him gain a bit more confidence. no advice really, he will get used to his new way of life and hopefully will make him a more confident baby it will just be painful for you during the transition! i feel for you though x

We're having a bit of a clingy thing going on just now, later than I expected tbh. I think Imogen is just run down and sensitive because she has molars comng through, but leaving with this utter mardy bum is a pain in the bum. I think Noah will grow out of this, it is hard though. I read an article recently about keeping your LO distracted when you're out of the room - maybe that could be a starting point? xx

Don't blame yourself. It's just a phase he is going through.

Aimee didn't leave me until she was 10 months old and she didn't get clingy at all, she couldn't wait to be rid of me. So, it's not your fault at all.

He will settle down as soon as he knows you will be going back for him. Don't let him pick up on your stress either xxxx

Thanks ladies for ur advice, my mom does try and distract him by taking him in the garden and for a walk around.

We do go to a baby group every week have been since he was born. His ok when his on the floor he will crawl around and play with other babies but thats only if i am there, same goes for other peoples homes.

I dont think it helps me being there either lol.

I hope it does get better his such a good baby, have no other problems a part from this so shouldnt be to hard on my self i suppose.

I know his got to get use to it tho coz me going back to work is reality now.

Everyone just wants to cuddle and kiss him but he doesnt let them

Thanks again

Char