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Those of you who know me from AB may remember me posting a few months back the story of my brother and his 42 wife splitting up, her running off with my 22 year old nephew and taking all the kids money. I've tried to stay out of the situation as much as possible but I spoke to my mum last night and she updated me on what's been happening and I don't know what to do Basically they have 3 children age 15, 10 and 6. She moved out of the house and rented somewhere for a while didn't want to know the kids etc so my brother with the help of the family has been taking care of them. Well now the money has run out and about a month ago she decided to move back in. So she has been sleeping in the younger boys bedroom, while he has been sharing with his Dad. My brother has found a new girlfriend recently who seems quite nice and my SIL doesn't like this so she's told him he can't stay there (he's paying the mortgage alone at the moment as she doesn't work). My brother being the dumbass that he is has given in to her and is staying with his girlfriend. Now the kids are at the house but she doesn't want them and has no interest in them, but doesn't want them to be with him and his new girlfriend. So he is going in as often as she will let him to see them and feed them etc. The youngest two stayed at my mums Sunday for the day and arrived there around 2pm and she made dinner for them. The 10 year old said he was starving and my mum asked what they'd had to eat today and he told her that they hadn't had any food since there Dad had been to see them on Friday evening. My mum had a chat with my nephew and he's told her that their mum isn't feeding them at all, she's not buying any food or caring for them, so their laundry isn't getting done, they aren't being bathed, or taken care of, she's also going out drinking and not coming home, leaving them in the house by themselves all night. The eldest one is pretty much living at his girlfriends house (they've been together for 4 years already, so her parents have taken him under their wing) so it's just the younger two there. Now I was horrified at this and asked what was being done, and apparantly nothing is being done. My mum said that my brother is doing as much as he can, and they are monitoring it. He won't go to court for custody because she said she will fight it, and his solicitor has said that she will probably get custody so he's frightened of losing them altogether. I seem to be the only person who actually thinks that someone should be doing something, because in my eyes they are being neglected. What do I do? Sorry it's so long and I've rambled but I'm still trying to make sense of it myself, any words of wisdom? |
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| How awful. I'm not surprised you are going out of your mind. Tbh it makes you wonder if she needs sectioning. From what you said about her previous behaviour, all that she is doing (or not doing) sounds very out of character. She must have some serious issues if she can't even take even basic care of her children. Hope things get sorted out very soonx x x |
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| hi mandy i havnt got anything else to add to what the other ladies have said. i understand your brother is scared of loosing them totally.. but he has is older son who will be spoke to by ss and child welfare and aslong as he tell the truth and what he has witnessed the kids will be his imediatly! |
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| hun i know a bit about SS and this to me needs reporting and your brother needs to do it, basically he needs to show he is caring for the children, by him reporting it shows he has their best interests in thoguht.
also if the police found them alone in the house they would remove, yes they would look at dad and all family members first. if the house is in his name, the solicitor should be able to get her out.
but if he doesnt then someone needs to report it, if he went to court now without calling ss, and applied for custody or residence order a social worker or guardian would be involved and they would talk to the children, and parents. if the kids say anything that would be in court and to be honest would result in a police enquiry, it might not go anywhere but leaving children alone could be classed as abandonment... hope you get some help soon |
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| spoke to my sister hun there are 2 routes you can take 1 is your local ss direct or 2 ring the contact centre for your local county council x |
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