Thats a tough one hun. The only thing I can think of is when Shayne's mom died and how a few close family members did not attend her funeral. It hurt him and his sister because they felt abandoned, just like Gav did on what was a very hard time. It left them wondering why anyone who claimed to love them or their mom wasn't bothered to show. It wasn't about 6 months after her death that they had the opportunity to ask these family members why they didn't come, and the truth was they couldn't deal with her passing, it totally devastated them to the point that they just wanted to avoid the whole thing. They live with that guilt daily, and I guarantee it will haunt them for a long long time. Death is hardest on the living, and some people grieve in ways that some would fine bizarre or completely emotionally cut off. If Gav is willing to forgive, or even get a chance to talk to his cousin about it, I think it would be a good idea to clear the air for them both. I bet the answer will be similar to what happened in Shayne's case, that it was too painful for her to deal with her aunty's passing and face the loss. xxx