hey all

am sure no-one has any real experience but i was wondering if you all have some ideas

lily-ann has very little control over her hands so flings them around alot...which usually results in hitting...lewis has started hitting too...but very deliberately

of course i need to discipline lewis, but lily-ann i can't, as it's not her choice to do...but lewis isn't old enough to understand this yet

as far as he sees, mummy is telling him off but letting lily-ann get away with it....

how the heck do i tackle it!?! any advice welcome

Not really sure, how do you deal with it when lewis does it?

Could you try moving him away from you when he does it with a firm no?

Then with Lily, you could just move away from her (when possible) when she hits you accidentally and then move back to her once out of range of a hit?

That way, he can see that both he and lily are moved away from when it happens, but you dont need to discipline lily for something that has happened accidentally. But he can see that both him and lily have a consequence for the 'hit'.

At college (i work with adults who have severe to profound learning difficulties) we tend to do this and it seems to work out, though obviously different with adults i guess, and its college not home.

Not sure if will work or has helped, but might work, let us know what you do in the end, hope others can help more.

MAndy xx

thanks for the advice hun, it's a great idea...but lily-ann's hits are almost constant...with her condition she doesn't really have any control so she'll be waving them about during meals and everything, so it's hard to just move away from her

i do gently tell her no, but i don't want to punish her for something she can't control :S

I would try not to worry about him just yet. Aimee was a nightmare at the same age. She would bite really hard and ignored me when I told her off. In the end, rather than tell her off, I took her and put her in her cot for 'time out' and it worked.

This may work for Lewis too xx

It is quite a common thing at this age for the nipping, hitting and biting as Laura said.
I can understand your predicument though, how about when he does hit etc, hold his hand gently and say..'be nice!' and stroke his hand or his face..and repeat the phrase 'be nice'
Oliver used to scratch us right across the face and we did this, so now he does just come up stroke our face and say 'aww, nice'
At least this way its not so much a 'disapline' if you get me, and intime he will understand that Lily-ann can't help it and he will most probably go and stroke lily-anns face and say 'nice'
It did work a treat for us though.

That seems like a good idea zee has kenty. Luckily c rarely hits but she does sometimes kick me when shes excited and i tend to say thats not nice be gentle gentle. She knows gentle gentle from teaching her to handle the cats and will often sto and say awwwwww and stroke me pmsl

Maybe if you teach lewis gentle gentle or something similar and explain its not nice cos then you can use gentle gentle with lumpy too and its not a telling off for either