ugh...

ok so elijah has stepped it up a notch or two as far as tantrums go now; i dont know if its because he is poorly and teething or if he is just getting closer to two (umm not that close!)

the past few days i have really struggled to get him into his pushchair - now he sometimes arches his back/objects to going in his highchair, or if hes having a nice time doesn't want to go back in the pushchair or if i take something dangerous off him he will shout/cry/throw himself on the floor...normally taking no notice works and he recovers in minutes.

today however, i went to put him in his pushchair (3rd day this has happened) and he went absolutely mad, tears streaming, arching his back, trying to throw himself out of it from all directions, after 10 minutes i gave in and took him back indoors (we were in the porch) and it took another 10 minutes for him to calm down (normally i would ignore it and keep going but my back couldn't take it). i took him out and he was fine until i picked him up to go in the pushchair and it started again - eventually i got him in and as soon as i had done the clips up he was totally fine..


so what's going on? is he testing boundaries? does he want to walk? he loves going out so i doubt that's his objection.
what would you do? its knackering!!! i am half hoping that when he feels better it will calm down again.

I'd maybe try taking the pushchair and letting him walk and if he gets tired pop him in. Emma is two and a half and tantrums aren't too bad. She uses the word no way too much but my 18 month old is prone to a bit of stroppiness. Hopefully its only because he wants to walk. Not easy when kids are testing you xxx

hes always had a bit of a temper (i blame the red hair ) but this was unreal...we live next to a busy road so although he is physically able to walk quite far its the pushchair or staying in - i don't want to punish him by staying in, but i don't want to give in.....and even if i did want to give in i dont know how cos i don't know what he wants

Hannah is exactly the same Hun, I find a bit of brute force or tickle them so they bend slightly and then bam!!! straps on and off we go

xx

normally that does the trick but it got to a point where i thought i probably would actually hurt him so had to give in.....hes so bloody strong!!!

Izzy did this for the first time last week in the post office, she got out and then when I tried to put her back after 5 mins in the queue she went mad and was so stiff, arms and legs going everywhere..eventually go her back in, was hot and bothered!

Anyway this week at the post office I was determined not to have it happen (was a bit ).. so she got out in the post office ( i let her get out cos we usually have to wait ages) and I explained that once we'd given the parcels over and paid she'd have to go back in the pushchair so we could go to the other shops, and that she could get out again at the park...she understood this, waited nicely while i paid and happily got back in...I did the same when we finished at the park

So maybe try explaining before you go to put him in that he needs to get in so we can go shops etc, and that he can get out and walk when we get blah blah...and hopefully he wont be so resistant...cos I know its awful and its only happened the once!

hmm.....im not sure he's old enough to understand? we do say to him 'we will get out and have a play when we get to the park' or 'it's time to go in but we will come out again later' but i don't think he really has a concept of anything other than 'now'....or perhaps i am underestimating him

Caitlin wouldnt have understood that at Elijahs age, and even now that she would understand it wouldnt make her co-operate. Caitlin is VERY strong willed and if she decides she isnt going in pram nothing but brute force and ignoring works. I just have to struggle on and get her in it. I could stand and reason all day but it wouldnt work! Bribary is another option, with a packet of crisps or something (your healthy organix one's of course ) That might not work either though as Caitlin would probably have 2 tantrums simultaneously - one for not wanting to be in pram and another for wanting the crisps regardless!

Not really being much help am I, except to tell you its normal, it may get worse and um it could last another year lol. It doesnt happen every day btw, just when she having a grumpy day.

Lisa you are so lucky Izzy can be reasoned with! Im jealous!

ha it doesn't always work! But yeh she totally understands, and has for quite a while, 'deals', 'consequences' and 'bribes' I doubt a day goes by without me doing a deal!
With Izzy it's not whether she understands what i am offering...but whether or not she is in the mood to accept it!

ahh i can't wait til he responds to bribery!!! he was so frenzied-ly angry i don't think even chocolate buttons would have worked....ho hum tomorrow is another day maybe i need to be a bit quicker with the calpol in the morning

oh well today he has been an absolute delight, seems to have learned loads of words and signs secretly in between tempers but hes been great all day, so hopefully he is back to a reasonable state now

I always find Tylers really naughty at something until i post on here about it and then he changes... so when he's being good I try not to mention it in case it works the other way round pmsl.



I think you just have to assume it's a grumpy toddler tantrum and do what you can to get him to do what you want, and be consisten. Doesn't matter what you choose to do just don't change your mind they can smell weakness

Arwyn doesn't like going into her pram now that she can walk. I might take her to Pets at Home and get a collar and lead